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"I have nothing right now and I'm honestly devasted," said the fitness instructor and model. "The only thing I have is m...
06/08/2026

"I have nothing right now and I'm honestly devasted," said the fitness instructor and model. "The only thing I have is my phone. Everything else I own is inside that bag!"

You may experience grief from losing your belongings, too because grief is losing anyone or anything that is meaningful to you--including your bag or phone

Our sons, brothers, but especially our fathers and grandfathers are "screaming" for help, but they don't know it and nei...
02/08/2026

Our sons, brothers, but especially our fathers and grandfathers are "screaming" for help, but they don't know it and neither do you.

According to Singapore’s latest su***de statistics released by the Samaritans of Singapore (SOS), older men accounted for three in four su***des among those aged 60 and above in 2024.

There is nothing particularly alarming in this CNA report, but one thing stood out-"A common misconception is that physical proximity equals emotional connection - that if an older man lives with his family, he is naturally protected from loneliness. In reality, living under the same roof without meaningful engagement can leave someone feeling isolated, unheard, or like an invisible burden.”

What this report doesn't address is the existence of family dynamics between each member of the family, and not just between the caregiver and the "grumpy" old man. Past trauma, co-dependence, favouritism, sibling resentment and grief cannot be divorced from all discussions on caregiving and su***de.

Read the full report at

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/singapore/older-men-senior-su***de-vulnerable-mental-health-sos-6291301?cid=FBcna&fbclid=IwY2xjawTbfiVleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZBAyMjIwMzkxNzg4MjAwODkyAAEeFuHE9RAL65_cdanRRJdB2xaYzmNaLThSBdODmNKDUQafVwaPoj4PRBdD7X4_aem__0UBvJmQvP_cfcuOyEPixQ

31/07/2026

The Weight of the Unspoken--Understanding Caregiver Grief is probably the first grief talk ever delivered to caregivers and their families in SG, and I hope it won't be the last.

If we don't understand grief, we could be looking at a new wave of mental health conditions amongst singles and the sandwiched generation aged 40 and above.

Thank you to for the opportunity to make difficult conversations.

Theatre practitioner Ivan Heng has called out MINDEF to pay artistes instead of recruiting volunteers because he says, "...
30/07/2026

Theatre practitioner Ivan Heng has called out MINDEF to pay artistes instead of recruiting volunteers because he says, "When well-resourced institutions ask people to provide such work for free, it sends a message that artistic labour is worth less than other professional services."

The same logic applies to the helping profession, particularly mental health professionals, who have invested invaluable time and resources to hone their craft, only to have social service agencies and partners ask to volunteer their services for free.

I'm not sure why MINDEF, who has the budget to buy tanks and fighter jets, wouldn't want to pay for artistes, but insufficient budgets and low incomes of beneficiaries are commonly cited by players in the helping profession.

The tragic irony is that we are in the same business, but in different capacities, serving the same beneficiaries, yet we are not optimising everyone's capabilities for the best outcomes.

Why not?

Ivan is spot on when he says that asking for a free lunch from artistes is a show of disrespect., which leads me to wonder whether people are in the right business for the right reasons.

Read his full letter at https://www.straitstimes.com/opinion/forum/forum-mindef-should-pay-artists-for-their-work?fbclid=IwY2xjawTXmy5leHRuA2FlbQIxMABicmlkETFjNXhDVW4yV3MxdWRYRGdRc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQQMjIyMDM5MTc4ODIwMDg5MgABHqUR2G316povGo7vO738insJqhotWxu0zOHqL7dinmESo7NjZ6kx56Tr98W7_aem_ERX95xEOZrMGzoJXMY7z3A

I hope this year's National Day Rally Speech writer attended "100 Voices of Resilience" this weekend, because the Prime ...
11/07/2026

I hope this year's National Day Rally Speech writer attended "100 Voices of Resilience" this weekend, because the Prime Minister's Office has been getting it wrong about resilience all this time.

Every National Day Rally Speech sees the camera zoom into an audience beaming with pride, after a video of his "rags to riches" story goes live on national TV in all four official languages.

I learned from these ordinary but brave Singaporeans at this event that resilience is nothing like that--it's not a life choice but about survival. When life becomes impossible, you don't think resilience and desired outcomes, but what you need to do today just to get through to tomorrow.

This will to survive detaches us from unhealthy relationships and survival eventually transforms into self-love.

This self-love is better than any National Day rally happy-ever-after story you could ever hear. It might not lead to better jobs, bigger houses or starting your own family because self love is intangible, independent of external factors, and it's all about you, finally.

I'm recording my voiceovers for Season 2 of my caregiver podcast, just days after a news report of a brother, suffering ...
05/07/2026

I'm recording my voiceovers for Season 2 of my caregiver podcast, just days after a news report of a brother, suffering from caregiver stress, has been sentenced to 8 years for killing his younger brother with multiple chronic diseases.

Our existing caregiver narratives are centred on love, duty and self-care, so where does the horror of homicide fit into these narratives?

It does, but love duty and self-care look very different when your family circumstances are impossible.

This is why I produced "This is What Caregiver Stress Feels Like"- I want to give voice to these unspoken stressors, so caregivers like this brother are not pushed into further isolation.

None of my caregivers I interviewed committed any crimes, but every family's circumstances are different and don't neatly fall into familiar themes of duty, love and self-care.

If we keep an open mind, you might just realise that the stress in caregiver stress is less about the person you caring for, but the entire family,

Read the full report at https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/courts-crime/man-who-had-caregiver-stress-gets-8-years-jail-for-killing-younger-brother-in-boon-lay-flat-in-2025

Listen to Season 1 of This is What Caregiver Stress Feels like at https://open.spotify.com/show/5IlwhUKjCJzx2asZFKsjiW?si=09dad3ca2e8b45ce

Five things I learned from Basic Instinct actress Sharon Stone about her loss and grief:1. We need validation from our p...
30/06/2026

Five things I learned from Basic Instinct actress Sharon Stone about her loss and grief:

1. We need validation from our parents, more than anyone else. Sharon never got it -- even at mother's death bed -- yet grew from this radical acceptance.

2. We "worship" our parents but their flaws and foibles show up, especially during the last stages of their lives, and causes a disconnect that exacerbates the caregiving experience.

3. Part of this acceptance is rooted in her belief that her mother was simply incapable.

4. Her mother didn't want to die, but her daughter wanted her to, because her death would bring relief.

5. Sharon was not only a victim but a safe haven for her mother's projection of her trauma onto her. Yes, we hurt the ones we love.

Sharon Stone has experienced many losses in her life, most recently...

27/06/2026

Ten Reasons Why the Entire Counselling Community in Singapore Should Be Worried About This Report:

1. The Covid-19 pandemic has raised the importance of mental health, but it didn't make a difference when it mattered.

2. If people fear stigma when seeking help, then what is the use of enjoying this awareness if it's not transformed into understanding and action?

3. No where in the report does it cite the costs of counselling as a deterrent to seeking help, so it's not about accessibility but something even more worrying.

4. People are concerned about breaches in privacy and confidentiality. Does this mean our counsellors are unprofessional? This is a giant red flag because ensuring a client's safety is a non-negotiable.

6. If our counsellors are indeed loose-lipped, then under what situations, limitations and working environments/cultures would make them compromise the safety of their clients?

7. One example cited is the workplace , which makes me wonder whether the bosses and HR staff are invested in counselling, and appreciate the importance of confidentiality.

8. SG is very much a profit-driven society. As much as employees are valued, they are the means to this end--making money. How do employers decide between the emotional well-being of employees and running a business? What is the ultimate deciding factor?

9. Peer support is great because "misery" loves company, but it will eventually come to a point when professional direction is needed, and only tight-lipped counsellors can do this job.

10. Malaysia licensed counselling in 1998. What's taking SG so long to do the same?

Read the full article at https://www.channelnewsasia.com/singapore/mental-health-study-adults-anxiety-depression-help-6207251

Many are curious about my work as a facilitator/counsellor inside Changi Prison, and the most common response I get is: ...
19/06/2026

Many are curious about my work as a facilitator/counsellor inside Changi Prison, and the most common response I get is: "Gosh, your work must be so difficult."

CNA'S Breaking Habit takes cameras right into the cells and the classrooms where I spend most of my working hours engaging the incarcerated and their families.

But is my work difficult, and if it is, what makes it difficult?

This episode focuses on substance-abuse offenders, and the demeanour of the interviewees in this episode are spot on. I will let you decide whether their responses makes this job difficult, but what does makes my job difficult is watching the responses of their families.

A common theme that cuts across all users is the inability to cope with life transitions, particularly the loss of something or someone that rattles their sense of self and who they are in the world. This response to loss can be so acute it drives them to escapism, avoidance and acting out.

Sadly this response to loss is sometimes exacerbated by the families themselves, who are unable to cope with these transitions, too. They don't resort to substances, but their anxiety can lead to an increase in co-dependent behaviour, toxic positivity, and people pleasing.

I believe the family is broken in Singapore. Our long-held beliefs of family cannot hold up to the realities of today, and I think what makes my job difficult is when families and the incarcerated stubbornly hold on to those beliefs, even when its impact is staring right back at them. Watch the full episode at

Inside Singapore’s Drug Rehabilitation Centres, four drug abusers confront addiction through treatment, counselling and strict routines, while their families grapple with the consequences of drug abuse.

Every time I look at my interviewee's transcripts I see something new and different, and this makes me excited to wrap u...
15/06/2026

Every time I look at my interviewee's transcripts I see something new and different, and this makes me excited to wrap up season 2 of my podcast, "This is What Caregiver Stress Feels Like."

After repeatedly pouring through the transcripts , I've decided to focus on grief recovery, not because I want to end on a "happy" note, but because I heard firsthand what resilience actually sounds like.

But there is no resilience without the rough and tumble.

I heard how caregivers lose themselves, especially when ageing and illnesses turn their parents into people they don't recognise. Parents essentially stop becoming parents, and caregivers are left with a new reality that upends their roles as children, their belief system, the same the system their parents helped shape.

Without uttering any word related to grief, recovery or healing, my two caregivers eventually connected back to themselves, even while painfully watching their parents slip through their fingers.

I can't wait to tell you their stories. Watch this space for Season 2 of "This is What Caregiver Stress Feels Like"

Listen to Season 1 on Spotify at https://open.spotify.com/show/5IlwhUKjCJzx2asZFKsjiW?si=ff29451a346743e3

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