Dark Psychology for Beginners

05/07/2025

Геополітики пост
Стояла я у черзі за сметаною. Таке буває, коли продавщиня має добру сметану та молоко. Тоді до неї черга. І ось літні жіночкі у черзі за сметаною говорять:

- Стріляли сьогодні?
-Та не чула.
-А хтось чув, хто там на інтернеті?
-Та не чули.
-І чого ця Америка боїться того путіна?
-Вона ж Америка, а він хто, І боїться, чи може щось інше?
Я не хотіла влазити у чужу розмову, подумала про себе: "Може і інше. Типу ми бажаємо росію протиставити Китаю, щоб останній послабити, а насамперед треба послабити Європу. От і всі до одного президенти тієї Америки від Клінтона і Бушів до Обами, Байдена, Трампа і ведуть політику, щоб росія була не з Китаєм і щоб лякала Європу. Така дуже складна політика, коли треба постійно брехати, звісно провалюється, і Америка залишає у минулому свою велич і повагу до себе. Тобто отримує росією по голові. І миротворець Обама зараз виглядає зловісною постаттю, який фактично дав дозвіл на хімічну зброю, знищення міст, аннексію. Байден залищиться у пам'яті як боягузливий та двоособливий. Трамп, та ви наших бабусь би послухали, що вони йому бажають".

І ось чую і подяку Америці від багатьох, бо завдяки Америці ми досі живі, і неповагу до США, бо завдяки США у нас досі війна, а не скінчилася ще в 2014 році. Що є, то є. Отака геополітика.

22/04/2025

Continuing on about aggression. "Interestingly, those who behave most aggressively are often the ones who once felt humiliated or victimized by others. It's like a seesaw; the more someone has been wronged, the more severely they might retaliate. But often, the retaliation isn't aimed at the original wrongdoer—who may be unreachable—but at someone else, a scapegoat. Remember the cartoonist's illustration? The boss yells at the assistant, who yells at an employee, who then takes it out on his wife, who then yells at the dog. The dog bites the boss to restore balance, and aggression comes full circle".

14/04/2025

Aggression is back on the front pages of the news, as if it were something new. But it is as old as the world, but no less dangerous and no less necessary. We continue to study it. "Some people are more aggressive, others less. In itself, being more or less aggressive is neither good nor bad, just as there are people who are taller and shorter. Both survive. It seems that the more aggressive person has more advantages, he will take more. However, he also gets into various troubles more often, because he acts in the opposite direction. The aggressive person gets less, but he more often preserves his life and health. Therefore, in evolution, more or less aggressive people turned out to be necessary, only those who are completely devoid of aggression or are so aggressive that it prevented them from interacting with other people, surviving and leaving offspring were eliminated." (from the book "Dark Psychology for Beginners: How to Stop Playing the Victim")

07/04/2025

Let's get acquainted with the pages of the book.
"What to do when we are attacked. Recall a real case when you were attacked with words or actions. It does not matter whether the attack is fair or not; even when aggression is for a fair reason, it is aggression, and we must do something in response

The answers, as always, are three:
• freeze, let it pass;
• run away;
• accept the challenge.

No matter how you react, you need to take strength in any case. Strengths are diverse. I outline four strengths; you have the opportunity to outline them differently.

How to take the strength of time. Sit in a beautiful or quiet, calm place and think like King Solomon: And this will pass. It helped the king, and it will help you. Imagine that everything is already in the past. Feel the strength of time because everything that seemed so aggressive and scary is a thing of the past.

How to get the power of physical strength? You can test your muscles, and if they are weak, pump them up with exercise, or you can mentally. You can, like a primitive person, imagine yourself as a lion or a tiger, or like a modern person - a young Schwarzenegger or a boxing champion, or a mother of many children in her usual day. Do you feel a surge of strength?

How to get the power of calm? Imagine a high mountain or a place of strength and sit there in a very calm position. You can sit down in reality, but you can also imagine a mountain in your head. Now, you look at everything that is happening from a high mountain, detached and calm.

How to get the power of wisdom? Remember a wise person you know, or you have read about him, seen in a movie. Allow yourself to act, think, and feel like this wise person. This is one of the thousands of paths to wisdom; you can go another way. The author adheres to the idea that each person walks the path of enlightenment, but at different speeds, sometimes very slowly, sometimes faster.

Now that you have become stronger, remember the challenges and attacks. How will you act now?"

17/03/2025

Excerpt from the book: "If you encounter undue aggression from a friend, boss, or, for example, a salesperson, the first step is to step aside. Identifying what might happen, even as a hypothesis, is a good approach in any aggressive situation—except for a physical attack. In such a case, sidestepping when the aggressor prepares to strike can be a practical first step. After that, however, it's essential to escape, defend yourself, or call for help. In non-physical aggressive encounters, exploring various assumptions about what is happening and observing closely to confirm or disprove them can be helpful. Learning more about a person who behaves aggressively can give insights into why they may be more hostile than you'd prefer.

But if you're an ordinary person without the skills, time, desire, or knowledge to analyze the causes of someone's aggression—and if this person isn't your client, and you're not their psychologist—simply ask them why they're being so aggressive. If they're surprised by the question and willing to explore what's happening, that's a good sign. Often, they'll thank you for helping them see themselves from another perspective, and this shared exploration can lead them to adjust their behavior temporarily or even permanently.

If, however, you receive a response telling you that you're the crazy one and should "go somewhere far away," you're likely dealing with a manipulator who will resent any question about their state. Their goal is to intimidate you. While natural aggression can stem from many complex, intertwined causes, manipulative aggression has a single purpose: to make you feel weak and strong."

13/02/2025

A chapter from the book about how it can be difficult to determine who the aggressor is. Not so often does a person realize that they themselves are the aggressor. And how a correct understanding of what is happening improves the situation.
History. I remember one woman, her name was Leah (name changed), who bitterly complained about her son's aggression. Leah gave countless examples of how lazy her son was and how rudely he behaved towards his mother. Leah scolded her son very often, but he didn't change anything, he remained just as aggressive and rude. Leah went to her friends a lot and complained about her son; they sympathized and commiserated with her. Indeed, her son was unbearable. Finally, Leah went to a psychologist. It was difficult for the specialist to understand what was happening right away because he didn't see Leah's son, so he asked her to tell him about him. Leah said that they used to be very close with her son, but then something happened, and he became very disobedient. Now the son is engaged in sports, and studies, and sometimes works part-time, but at home, he is rude and does nothing. The psychologist suggested to Leah to name what was happening in their home. Leah thought for a long time and said, "Arguments." "Specify who is arguing," the psychologist asked. Leah replied that both she and her son were arguing. Then the specialist suggested an experiment for Leah: three weeks without arguing with her son. Not to reproach him for anything, not to demand anything from him, and see what happens. Two weeks later, Leah called; she was crying. Her son lasted two days, on the third day, he went to the store for groceries and brought back water, and yesterday he mopped the floor himself!
Of course, psychologists, analyzing this case, will name many terms, say that this is separation, and they will be right. But how to make fairly rapid changes? What is the simplest thing to do when the situation inexplicably worsens? In our story, everything miraculously changed as if by magic when Leah was able to name the phenomenon as an argument and then identify the participants: she and her son. Now the psychologist's suggestion to not engage in arguments became clear. You can only argue with someone. If the other party doesn't engage in an argument, the quarrel disappears, and aggression turns into the possibility of reaching an agreement.
Many will ask, could it be that Leah was not involved in the argument, and her son would continue? Yes, it could have been like that. But then the son's behavior would have been inadequate, and one could assume that his character had changed pathologically, and he needed the help of a specialist, for example, a psychiatrist. The second assumption, he started using narcotics and didn't quite understand what was happening. However the psychologist's suggestion was based on information from Leah that her son is studying, working part-time, and engaging in sports, he has many friends. He hoped that the young man was just maturing, which Leah did not consider. That's why unilateral suppression of aggression helped change their relationship.

06/02/2025

A little about hidden aggression: I am aggressive, but in a way that I do not guess, and the person feels the attack. This is not good. But it is good to notice it, starting with yourself, a proud person. Sometimes I succeed.

I'm not passive aggressive.
Unlike *some* people.

My French girlfriend is aggressively insisting we adopt a kitten
She stormed into my room and said "I think it's time you and I had a little chat"

My crazy neighbour rang my doorbell aggressively at 3 A.M.
I almost dropped my drilling machine!

The best method of passive aggressiveness is simply to include the person's name at the end of your sentence, Kathy.

To people who get pi**ed off about passive-aggressive criticism...
What else do you do poorly?

WHAT DO WE WANT? PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR!
WHEN DO WE WANT IT? WHEN DO WE WANT IT? WHERE? WITH WHOM?
HOW? FOR HOW LONG?

25/01/2025

Hello. I am the author Maria Pol, I wrote a book about Aggressors and Victims, but this book is not about violence or tolerance. This book is about how every day we turn into Aggressors and Victims thousands of times, either unnoticed, or subconsciously, or knowing everything in advance and doing it on purpose. The question is whether such roles help us or not. We can all see how in family life, in society, and even in political decisions about war or peace, it is possible to make the necessary decision only after understanding this issue.
The answers to distinguishing between victims of circumstances and those who play a role are in this book. We must distinguish between natural aggression and manipulative aggression, not only in others but also in ourselves. When we are not like that, we do not notice it. There are more reflections in the book because life is much more complex than our knowledge and reasoning The issue is so complex that it requires a collective mind to interact with it, so your participation will be very important.
1. The book can be downloaded for free https://dl.bookfunnel.com/jhbvv3jsoa
2. You can ask the author a question, since the author of the study is a psychologist, send your question to FB Dark Psychology for Beginners
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567896551239 messenger Lena Murza View
website https://psihologmariupol.com/
I promise to inform and discuss.
3. Please find the book on Amazon by the words «Dark Psychology Victim» and give a review. It is very important, thanks to it other people will read the book and think about these important topics. This makes the world safer. You can leave a review without buying the book if you have an Amazon account. But when you buy, both Americans and Japanese will see your review.

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22/12/2024

It so happened that I wrote a book about aggression. I don't think I know much about aggression, it's just that such books should be written. They exist, but I've come across rather scientific ones, and I want this knowledge to be easy to use for anyone just starting to understand it.

It's not about military or violent aggression, but about simple everyday, banal aggression. And I wrote about it at least because people always consider someone else to be the aggressor, not themselves. And when they discover that they are becoming aggressors, they quite often consider this to be a manifestation of dark psychology on the part of others, or blame their untreated complexes. But whether it's time to stop aggression or not, I'm wrong, it's time to understand aggression and use it for the benefit of yourself and others. That's the right way to do it.

And for this, you need to know the signs of aggression. After all, it's true that if you were offended, and in response your voice raised, your jaw tensed and your jaw muscles began to play, you don't consider this aggression. You're probably right. But the next step will be aggressive - usually, it is a reproach, a caustic remark, or even worse - self-blame oneself. Hello, psychosomatics!

A book about how to catch the first signs of aggression in yourself, even for people who are just beginning to understand this, and how to get out of this state. Or maybe you don’t need to get out of the state of combative aggression, for example, like boxing champion Usyk? No, I’m wrong again, probably Usyk is a champion because he can catch his aggressive impulses and quite calmly decide which fist and when to direct them to win.

Oh yeah, that isn’t very easy. So, the book is about something simpler, for beginners, although it is about the dark psychology of aggressors and victims. After reading the book you will learn how to recognize an aggressive state in yourself and others, how, if necessary, to get out of this state, and how to determine whether you need this aggressive state or not.

11/12/2024

A new book by Maria Paul about the dark side of psychology for beginners has been released. You can read this book for free (link in the comments). It highlights how in the dark corner of the subconscious the aggressor turns into a victim, and the victim into an aggressor. This process is endlessly repeated, and gives a person the feeling that someone is manipulating them, and they are powerless to change anything.

When a person gets tired of this swing, they jump off and go about their business, because there are much more interesting things in the world than swinging between aggression and adapting to it. The author (she is from Mariupol) felt the need to talk and write about it right now because there is too much aggression and its acceptance around. For some, knowing how to get out of this cycle will be very important, they value the experience of those who have already done it

Here is an excerpt from this book: “If you are faced with unwarranted aggression from a friend, a boss, or, for example, a salesperson, the first step is to step aside. Determining what might happen, even as a hypothesis, is a good approach in any aggressive situation, except a physical attack. In such a case, stepping aside when the aggressor is about to strike can be a practical first step. After that, however, it is important to run away, defend yourself, or call for help. In non-physical aggressive encounters, exploring different assumptions about what is happening and observing closely to confirm or refute them can be helpful. Trying to learn more about the person behaving aggressively can give you insight into why they may be more hostile than you would like.

But if you are an ordinary person without the skills, time, desire, or knowledge to analyze the reasons for someone’s aggression, and if the aggressor is not your client and you are not their psychologist, ask why he is so aggressive. If people are surprised by the question and are willing to explore what is happening, this is a good sign. Often, people will be grateful that you are helping them see themselves from a different perspective, and this joint exploration can lead to them temporarily or even permanently changing their behavior. Ordinary people want to be adequate, not aggressive. However, if you get a response telling you that you are crazy and should “go somewhere else,” you are most likely dealing with a manipulator who will resent any question about his condition. His goal is to intimidate you. While many complex, intertwined reasons can cause natural aggression, manipulative aggression has one goal: to make others feel weak, to bend their will to seize other people's resources and attention.”

You can ask questions on this topic or argue with the author. I promise to answer your questions.