Musarat Yusufali LCSW, Relationship & Trauma Therapy

Musarat Yusufali LCSW, Relationship & Trauma Therapy Hi, I'm Musarat Yusufali, LCSW, a psychotherapist in Private Practice in Austin, TX. I provide counseling services to couples, adults, and adolescents.

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Mental health awareness monthMental HEALTH is about taking care of your entire being. That means what you eat, what you ...
05/10/2020

Mental health awareness month

Mental HEALTH is about taking care of your entire being. That means what you eat, what you feed your soul and what you feed your mind all matter. 🥑

You are what you eat
You are what you think 🤔

Here’s a beautiful salad I made to nourish my body top to bottom (did you know the brain covers the entire body?)

#mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mindbodysoul #anxiety #depressionhelp

We are not perfect. We make mistakes. Our past generations have done the best they can with the knowledge and abilities ...
05/03/2020

We are not perfect. We make mistakes. Our past generations have done the best they can with the knowledge and abilities they had. When we understand and know how to make things better, it's our responsibility to lead ourselves and our future generations to a better path. When we "correct" our path and make our lives better, we are honoring the past generations. 🌻

For example, when you realize that you didn't have the best parenting or the best educational path AND you make a choice to heal those wounds so you can be a better parent to your children, you have honored your parents and their parents and theirs ...

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #traumatherapy #traumatreatment #bpdtherapy #dbtskills #teencounseling #teentherapy #therapytraining #emotionregulation

Our individualistic society has made us pay attention to "my needs" and "women's needs". However, if both partners put e...
05/01/2020

Our individualistic society has made us pay attention to "my needs" and "women's needs". However, if both partners put each other as their top priority; both spouses will be filled with love and attention. Instead of having a "compromising" relationship, we can strive to have a "win-win" relationship (another Steven Covey term). I personally feel that service to each other is an important part of relationships and can be healthy.

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #traumatherapy #traumatreatment #bpdtherapy #dbtskills #teencounseling #teentherapy #therapytraining #emotionregulation

What are the components of a healthy relationship? Here they are. Self-care is important so that you have energy to show...
04/29/2020

What are the components of a healthy relationship? Here they are. Self-care is important so that you have energy to show up fully. I love the love languages and it's important to learn which one is the top one for your spouse. Validation is key! Reducing judgments is part of Mindfulness, instead of labeling everything as good vs. bad, describe it more accurately. Attend to your relationship with attention. Have a family purpose, this is a Steven Covey idea that I remember originally reading. For Muslims that purpose is already identified. Maybe you focus on something that your family can be experts on. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👧

Share your family purpose if you have one!

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #traumatherapy #traumatreatment #bpdtherapy #dbtskills #teencounseling #teentherapy #therapytraining #emotionregulation

The idea of a "miracle morning" came to me from one of the health experts that I follow. The idea is that we can conquer...
04/27/2020

The idea of a "miracle morning" came to me from one of the health experts that I follow. The idea is that we can conquer our day by doing our most important activities in the morning, and these are those activities that will expand the outcome of the rest of our day. This is my Miracle Morning routine that I try to do. However, I do not always do this and I am to be able to cultivate this habit as much as I can. Sometimes I'm able to do parts of it and some other times all of it. I still strive each day to do it. 🧕🏼

What's your mourning routine?

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #traumatherapy #traumatreatment #bpdtherapy #dbtskills #teencounseling #teentherapy #therapytraining #emotionregulation

There are many components that go into "mental health". Not one of them alone will be the solution for a dysregulated sy...
04/25/2020

There are many components that go into "mental health". Not one of them alone will be the solution for a dysregulated system. We need to take care of all these parts of our "health" so that we can have a healthy mind and soul.

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #traumatherapy #traumatreatment #bpdtherapy #dbtskills #teencounseling #teentherapy #therapytraining #emotionregulation

I love teaching and using DBT skills with my clients. Here's a example of a typical family problem and how I would help ...
04/23/2020

I love teaching and using DBT skills with my clients. Here's a example of a typical family problem and how I would help them use both skills and therapy to find a solution. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore your inner hurt. Of course not everyone may seek therapy, and sometimes you may have a safe family friend or family member (like an aunt, uncle, older cousin) that can provide you the needed support you need. As a young adult, I turned towards my uncle many times. It did help that even though he wasn't a therapist, he was actually using a lot of the same empathic listening techniques 😜

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #traumatherapy #traumatreatment #austinteentherapy #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #bpdtherapy #dbtskills #teencounseling #teentherapy #therapytraining #emotionregulation

There is. When we are all the same, how boring life can be. Yes it can be helpful when we are doing similar things and w...
04/21/2020

There is. When we are all the same, how boring life can be. Yes it can be helpful when we are doing similar things and when we are different, we can at least look at the beauty in that.

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #virginiaisforlovers

That's what trauma is. Our symptoms all go back to past ineffective behaviors that we learned and encoded. Remember the ...
04/19/2020

That's what trauma is. Our symptoms all go back to past ineffective behaviors that we learned and encoded. Remember the saying, when you resist, it persists? Same with trauma, when we look at our trauma (in a safe space) and give kindness to it, we can let it go.

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #trauma #traumatherapy

Please share, lots of resources for Muslims needing support
04/18/2020

Please share, lots of resources for Muslims needing support

It's true. You are both right. There is truth in both sides of the story. #relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #rela...
04/17/2020

It's true. You are both right. There is truth in both sides of the story.

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #virginiaisforlovers

Just like our current situation. Maybe you wanted more time with family, less driving, more indoor time, more time to do...
04/15/2020

Just like our current situation. Maybe you wanted more time with family, less driving, more indoor time, more time to do work, etc. You never thought it would look like this (ie social distancing).

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #virginiaisforlovers

I get stuck sometimes thinking about our differences in my relationship, the truth is that we have more in common that b...
04/13/2020

I get stuck sometimes thinking about our differences in my relationship, the truth is that we have more in common that bring us together than the small differences. Focus on the common things to make your heart and love stronger for each other.

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #virginiaisforlovers

I wrote about this in my early 20s, I'm now married and a mother. I still believe this is true. Marriage gives us opport...
04/11/2020

I wrote about this in my early 20s, I'm now married and a mother. I still believe this is true. Marriage gives us opportunities to practice qualities that make us Godly.

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy #virginiaisforlovers

Last week to register #Dbt #dbtskills #dbttherapy #dbttherapist
04/07/2020

Last week to register #Dbt #dbtskills #dbttherapy #dbttherapist

Starting a new live DBT program, if you're interested check dbtclasses.com and let me know what questions you have.
04/01/2020

Starting a new live DBT program, if you're interested check dbtclasses.com and let me know what questions you have.

Let's face it, we are all stressed out. And it makes sense. This time in our life we have an opportunity to stop, reflec...
03/26/2020

Let's face it, we are all stressed out. And it makes sense. This time in our life we have an opportunity to stop, reflect, and grow even better. We can do this with ourselves and we can also do this with our relationships. So instead of getting into each other's "spaces" and fighting more, join me for a chance to transform your relationship to an even better one. You can learn more about this at dbtclasses.com. ❤️

#relationshipgoals #relationshipproblems #relationshipskills #relationshiphelp #relationshiphealing #loveisforever #loveisaverb #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagelife #marriagematters #marriageworks #muslimmarriage #therapist #therapists #socialworkers #socialworker #counseling #counselor #counselingpsychology #mindfulliving #momenttomoment #imago #couplesquotes #relationshipquotesandsayings #virginiatherapy #dctherapy

03/21/2020

Good Morning everyone. I changed my FB cover to show a little bit more of what I do. I love utilizing DBT skills for people struggling in their relationships. Dialectical Behavior Therapy is a specialized treatment for persons with high depression or intense emotion dysregulation. In my personal and professional life, I have observed DBT skills to be very helpful to everyone. The concepts within DBT are so helpful and useful and universal ideas we can all incorporate in our life.

The current situation which may bring up lots of emotions and anxieties for you is a great time to use DBT skills.

If you know someone who can benefit from DBT skills, I have a small intro and mini-course on my website: dbtclasses.com for you to check out. 🧘‍♀️

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03/21/2020

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03/16/2020

How are you doing? How are you taking care of yourself in this stressful time? #relationshipgoals #therapyiscool #therapist #healingjourney

03/14/2020

A Lesson From Esther Perel

Shall We Begin?

Where did we get the idea that we have to learn how to love all on our own? Have you ever ended a relationship because you needed to “work on yourself?” Have you ever said “I need to learn how to love myself before I can love anyone else—and before I can learn how to be loved?
Western culture is obsessed with the exhortation of individualism. In the past few years, the lexicon of the “Self”—self-love, self-care, self-made, the selfie, etc.—has sparked intense debate. Has “self-love” become a marketing term so that beauty brands can sell more products under the guise of wellness? Is self-care making us more self-critical? Is Kylie Jenner really the youngest “self-made” billionaire if she started her business with family money and fame? Does a “selfie” show the world our most empowered self or does it present a better-lit and maybe even slightly tweaked version of how we think we’d like to look? When people say “love thyself,” I wonder, which one?

While the idea of selfhood is not new, different cultures map the self on a continuum: unique or varied, separate or together, independent or conformist. And our ideas about the self are evolving. In the west, we tend to see the self as a separate entity with clear boundaries that delineate an independent identity. This vision of the self is comprised of internal ruminations about confidence, doubt, happiness, failure, ability, disability, and privilege or lack thereof. But the self is also entangled in a cosmic connection with the people around us and with social, political, and economic structures. We don’t just learn to love ourselves by ourselves. It’s a classic chicken or the egg scenario: in order to love another, we must love ourselves. In order to love ourselves, we must allow ourselves to be loved by others. And we must recognize that negative self-esteem is riddled with societal messages about who is lovable, laudable, or loathsome.

It can be wonderful to be alone, to give our body a massage, to cook ourselves a delicious meal for one, but this isn’t self-love, it’s self-reliance and self-sufficiency. Self-love, on the other hand, is closer to my colleague Terry Real’s explanation of self-esteem, our ability to see ourselves as a flawed individual and still hold ourselves in high regard. Self-love is the ability to not fall into a puddle of contempt even when we mess up. It’s trying new things knowing that we could fail, without thinking of ourselves, therefore, as failures. Can we take that understanding and self-compassion into our connections with others?
On my way to the airport recently, I realized I had left my passport, wallet, and computer at home. My multiple selves instantly began a cacophony in my head, how could you do this? You’re going to miss your flight. And then a new voice emerged: Perel, what a good thing this is happening to you in your sixties. This was the voice I tuned into.

Had this scenario happened thirty years ago, I’d be mercilessly beating myself up. I would have said to myself what the hell is wrong with you? You’re so stupid. Go hide. But this new voice said you made a mistake. It happens. Now what? I picked up the phone and called my assistant, a travel agent, my husband, and a friend to see if she wanted to grab coffee with the new free time I found myself with. For me, this is self-love. And look how many people it involved.

For this reason, I also resist the term “self-made”—that mentality of “if I make it, I did it on my own and if I end up on the street, I only have myself to blame.” Human beings are simultaneously dependent and self-reliant. When I write a book, I start with the acknowledgments, because without those people, I couldn't have written the book. I'm massively dependent on the expertise, help, presence, and love of others. We all are.

Self-love is less about the ability to withstand loneliness or establish independence and more about awareness and acceptance of our incompleteness. It’s about letting others love us even when we feel unlovable because their version of us is often kinder than our own.

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