Loving Someone With Cancer

05/09/2015

Does anyone know how to change a phone number for a page you manage? I haven't been able to get an expired phone number off of the "About" section on this page. Thank you!!

05/09/2015

GREAT stuff!

"Please let me be the first to punch the next person who tells you everything happens for a reason."

03/23/2015

Interesting information...

Cancer defeated bi-weekly newsletter

03/06/2014

How to Help a Friend with Cancer

When learning that a friend has cancer, many people will offer to help. Yet, as heartfelt as their friend's offer of aid may be, cancer patients are often reluctant to call and ask for help. The patient often hears these words.. "Let me know if there's anything I can do to help." Those of us with cancer are often stuck as how to respond to this very general offer of help.

Helping a friend with cancer.The best way to help a friend with cancer is to consider the type of help you can realistically provide. This will allow you to make a specific offer of help; such as: "I can shop for groceries on Tuesday evening" or "I'm free on Fridays to drive you to chemo." Then follow through by calling beforehand to pick up her grocery list or get her chemo appointment on your calendar.

By specifically defining your offer to help, you reassure your friend that accepting your offer will not place an uncomfortable burden on your other responsibilities. It allows her to accept your offer without guilt.

Offer to do things that will make life easier for your friend or will make life feel more normal for her family.

Consider these additional ways to help:

• Take children to a music lesson or soccer practice

• Baby sit young children one morning or afternoon a week

• Pick up prescriptions

• Mow the lawn, rake leaves, shovel snow or w**d the garden

• Send over a prepared dinner

• Help your friend research alternative cancer treatment centers or treatments

The investment of time that you make in helping your friend through this trial will benefit you and enrich your relationship with your friend!

12/09/2012

Love, unconditional, freely given, gratefully received, always carries good in its wake and always some kind of healing. Today we celebrate real love.

12/06/2012

Help for Those Afraid to Ask: Deep gratitude goes to a good friend who was brave enough to share today that he's afraid to ask how I am as he thought I might be dying. I was glad to be able to say that not everyone witn cancer is dying! We live life and work with our caretakers and doctors to manage it. People can live many, many years this way and something other than cancer may be their ticket to heaven. Take heart, friends of friends with cancer!

12/06/2012

Tip #3: Please don't be afraid of what we have or afraid to talk to us about it. People may avoid this page because cancer is an awkward topic, but we hope they visit this page and overcome that! Most of us are pretty open and have come to a good degree of acceptance, or at least knowledge, about what's going on. We also still love to laugh, be silly, eat chocolate and watch football like everyone else. And hair is overrated.

12/06/2012

More tips coming.. getting permission to share stories from people's lives... Thanks for visiting!

12/03/2012

Tip #2: PLEASE don't say, "But we're ALL terminal." This is not a comfort to one living with cancer. The thing that is likely to cause our death has a name and affects our lives irreversibly. This statement disregards that we often live with an in-your-face time bomb ticking inside of us, the fear of recurrence or that doctors may have given us limited time. If you haven't experienced what it is to be told you may not have even 5 years left, and grieved dreams that are not likely to happen, don't say this. If it were a help, people with cancer would say it to each other. We don't.

12/03/2012

To all who need a little hope...

Watch the live version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PLvSw_SLIA4 VERSE 1 There is a light It burns brighter than the sun He steals the night And casts no ...

12/03/2012

Tip #1...please know that the one you care about may look like he or she is "managing well" on the outside but could be down in the dumps on the inside. Being forced to spend more time resting than any of us ever wanted to is tough, and contributes to depression. If you don't live with the person, a simple phone call may do a lot to cheer him or her up. If you do, a flower, small gift or just a thoughtful note can let the person know, "You're important to me. You matter. I may not be in your shoes, but what you experience day to day matters to me."