Wild Geese Mental Health

Wild Geese Mental Health Wild Geese Mental Health is a small private practice offering a holistic approach to mental health for children, adolescents, and adults.
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03/14/2020

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In light of school closures due to COVID-19 HOOTS (Helping Out Our Teens in Schools) will be offering mental health support by phone for students, families and staff of high schools in the 4J, Springfield, Bethel and Oakridge school districts. HOOTS is primarily staffed by and born from the work that the CAHOOTS mobile crisis response program provides the Eugene/Springfield community. HOOTS normally operates weekly clinics at high-schools in our community, each staffed with a crisis counselor and medic.
This phone line will be accessible from 9:00 AM to 4:00 PM Monday through Friday, beginning Monday March 16th and continuing until schools are able to reopen. Staff are able to provide short term counseling, resource referrals and OHP sign up. We understand that this is a time of heightened anxiety for our community and that we are all in need of additional reassurance and support. Many social services in the area are working on providing services over the phone or via virtual platforms. Please reach out to your ongoing providers to find out if this is something available to you.
For students, families and staff of CHURCHILL, NORTH EUGENE HIGH, SHELDON, SOUTH EUGENE HIGH, ECCO, NETWORK CHARTER, WELLSPRINGS, TWIN RIVERS CHARTER, WILLAMETTE HIGH AND KALAPUYA, please call (541)246-2342.
For students, families and staff of ACADEMY OF ARTS AND ACADEMICS, GATEWAYS, SPRINGFIELD HIGH, THURSTON HIGH AND OAKRIDGE HIGH please call (541)246-2332.
The White Bird Crisis line will continue to be accessible 24/7 by phone at (541)687-4000. 15th Night will also be continuing to offer support and resources for unhoused youth and those working with them via phone and text at (541)246-4046. For an in-person response CAHOOTS continues to operate 24/7 at this time. If you are in Eugene please call (541)682-5111, for those in Springfield, please call (541)726-3714.

03/12/2020

As of today, I am offering all established clients telemedicine appointments to combat the spread of COVID-19. I am committed to working in every way I can to keep my community and my clients safe. I hope each of us can think about ways we can value and care for one another now.

01/17/2019

Mary Oliver, poet and author of "Wild Geese," has died at age 83. May her words live on as a part of us.

Circle of Security International
12/02/2018

Circle of Security International

The Letter Your Teenager Can't Write You
Gretchen Schmelzer June 23, 2015

Dear Parent:

This is the letter that I wish I could write.

This fight we are in right now. I need it. I need this fight. I can’t tell you this because I don’t have the language for it and it wouldn’t make sense anyway. But I need this fight. Badly. I need to hate you right now and I need you to survive it. I need you to survive my hating you and you hating me. I need this fight even though I hate it too. It doesn’t matter what this fight is even about: curfew, homework, laundry, my messy room, going out, staying in, leaving, not leaving, boyfriend, girlfriend, no friends, bad friends. It doesn’t matter. I need to fight you on it and I need you to fight me back.

I desperately need you to hold the other end of the rope. To hang on tightly while I thrash on the other end—while I find the handholds and footholds in this new world I feel like I am in. I used to know who I was, who you were, who we were. But right now I don’t. Right now I am looking for my edges and I can sometimes only find them when I am pulling on you. When I push everything I used to know to its edge. Then I feel like I exist and for a minute I can breathe. I know you long for the sweeter kid that I was. I know this because I long for that kid too, and some of that longing is what is so painful for me right now.

I need this fight and I need to see that no matter how bad or big my feelings are—they won’t destroy you or me. I need you to love me even at my worst, even when it looks like I don’t love you. I need you to love yourself and me for the both of us right now. I know it sucks to be disliked and labeled the bad guy. I feel the same way on the inside, but I need you to tolerate it and get other grownups to help you. Because I can’t right now. If you want to get all of your grown up friends together and have a ‘surviving-your-teenager-support-group-rage-fest’ that’s fine with me. Or talk about me behind my back--I don’t care. Just don’t give up on me. Don’t give up on this fight. I need it.

This is the fight that will teach me that my shadow is not bigger than my light. This is the fight that will teach me that bad feelings don’t mean the end of a relationship. This is the fight that will teach me how to listen to myself, even when it might disappoint others.

And this particular fight will end. Like any storm, it will blow over. And I will forget and you will forget. And then it will come back. And I will need you to hang on to the rope again. I will need this over and over for years.

I know there is nothing inherently satisfying in this job for you. I know I will likely never thank you for it or even acknowledge your side of it. In fact I will probably criticize you for all this hard work. It will seem like nothing you do will be enough. And yet, I am relying entirely on your ability to stay in this fight. No matter how much I argue. No matter how much I sulk. No matter how silent I get.

Please hang on to the other end of the rope. And know that you are doing the most important job that anyone could possibly be doing for me right now.

Love, Your Teenager

Stokes Counseling Services
11/11/2018

Stokes Counseling Services

So many names for healing
10/17/2018

So many names for healing

Some thoughts on the non-linear journey of trauma healing. ❤️

Photo credit: Mari Andrew

How to Stop Sibling Hitting
06/29/2017
How to Stop Sibling Hitting

How to Stop Sibling Hitting

"My three year keeps hurting my 15 month old. Sometimes they play nicely, then out of the blue he'll just shove her over. We do timeouts and lectures all day long, but it doesn't help." – Claudia

Seleni Institute
03/08/2017
Seleni Institute

Seleni Institute

"Our brains are wired to be thinking constantly, questioning the past and worrying about the future. Getting off that carousel of obsessive, unhelpful thinking is just one reason why a mindfulness practice would have made my IVF experience significantly less painful – emotionally and psychologically."

Postpartum Progress
02/13/2017

Postpartum Progress

New motherhood is challenging for all of us, but it shouldn't be consistently miserable. Read our guide if you're not sure whether what you are feeling needs outside support: http://bit.ly/1Bo3J0e

How do we negotiate parenting our kids and handling our smartphones at the same time? This article has a few good sugges...
11/26/2016
Distracted Parenting: How Has Technology Impacted Parenting

How do we negotiate parenting our kids and handling our smartphones at the same time? This article has a few good suggestions. http://labblog.uofmhealth.org/rounds/plugged-parenting-how-parental-smartphone-use-may-affect-kids?utm_source=twitter&utm_medium=paid&utm_content=Childrens_Health+&utm_campaign=how-parental-smartphone-use-may-affect-kids

How has technology impacted parenting? Parents are more connected than ever, but plugged in parenting is leading to distracted parenting. See tips on unplugging.

WellMama, Inc.
10/28/2016
WellMama, Inc.

WellMama, Inc.

Great ideas to support partners when they are struggling ❤️

Hand in Hand Parenting
09/16/2016
Hand in Hand Parenting

Hand in Hand Parenting

Fear upends your child’s ability to process his experience

A traumatic experience like his, even one that turns out well, creates a knot of fear in a child’s emotional memory. That knot is a bundle of all the sights, sounds, and physical perceptions he took in during the seconds he was in danger, glued together by a stark shot of emotion—fear.

His mind is not going to be able to process the details of what happened to him, to sort out the experience, store what can be learned, and drop it and move on, until he’s been able to fully and safely express his innate reaction to fear.

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/childhood-trauma-how-to-overcome-it/

The Trauma Project
08/24/2016

The Trauma Project

To all of those in the process of healing, unfurling, becoming

Miscarriage is rarely talked about, but it is such a common part of women's reproductive lives. This article offers some...
08/11/2016
Seleni Institute

Miscarriage is rarely talked about, but it is such a common part of women's reproductive lives. This article offers some ways of coping with recurrent miscarriage.

If you've experienced the emotional roller coaster of recurrent miscarriages, you are not alone. Here are ways to find support.

Making choices about medication always involves a weighing of risks and benefits. During pregnancy, when there is often ...
08/11/2016
Postpartum Progress

Making choices about medication always involves a weighing of risks and benefits. During pregnancy, when there is often little research data to help us make those decisions, supportive providers and friends are key to helping women trust themselves and their choices.

"Hundreds of medicines are responsibly and importantly used during pregnancy, because pregnant women get ill and ill women get pregnant," Little says. "The point is, we need to get more information on how to use those drugs during pregnancy to make sure they're the most effective and the safest for use during that time."

And here's another tricky thing: When a mother falls ill or an ill woman becomes pregnant and is told she either has to live with that pain, possibly on bed rest, or take huge unknown risks with the pregnancy, she's likely to feel anxiety about her choices. If her doctors aren't supporting her illness, they're likely also not supporting her mental health. This issue is a huge maternal mental health trigger on top of being a maternal health problem.

Q: Did you get sick while pregnant? Did the choices of medication leave you feeling anxious or depressed? How did it affect your pregnancy or your mental health? -JH

A great list of alternatives to the word "no."
08/11/2016

A great list of alternatives to the word "no."

Invite connection, soothe distress and build a bridge to understanding while upholding the message that the limits are non-negotiable. http://bit.ly/1HaITQE #TEACHthroughLove #consciousparenting

"No" gets overused. Teaching children to solve problems and restrain their impulses requires us to allow them to experience problems without interference. Sometimes, it's helpful to be curious about their situation as they sit with the discomfort of not getting what they want. This is how we strengthen their emotional flexibility.

"Tell me more about what you'd like to happen" invites a child to share and reflect.

"It won't work to stay up past 9pm" offers a child a legitimate reason without arguing or insisting.

"I won't let you hit" tells the child you are here to help.

"I know how hard you're trying" lets a child know it's OK to make mistakes.

Parents are asking: "Why do we need alternatives to "No?" Don't children need to learn that No means No? Isn't this the reason children have no respect nowadays?"

If we want children to USE their THINKING SKILLS and make good decisions - then, we need to prompt the development of those skills by stimulating the areas of the brain that govern logic, reasoning, thoughtfulness, planning, consideration, attention, focus, and empathy.

"No" doesn't create connections in the pre-frontal cortex where those skills are housed (the decision-making center). So, unless there is a safety or danger issue - the goal is not to "teach kids that no means no." It is to create new connections in the executive center of the brain that will help kids make better decisions in the future.

Ask your child to THINK about the situation by using words that offer more than an obstacle.

We're not saying "never say No."
We're saying teachable moments begin with #connection and #conversation.

This is a great article, but I might title it "an antidote to despair." "Self-pity" seems a harsh judgment on the diffic...
07/07/2016
The Trauma Project

This is a great article, but I might title it "an antidote to despair." "Self-pity" seems a harsh judgment on the difficulty each of us must face with accepting the suffering in our lives and in the world.

"You want to cry aloud for your
mistakes. But to tell the truth the world
doesn't need any more of that sound."
— Mary Oliver

Learning from our mistakes doesn't mean we have to obsess over our failures. Parker Palmer and Mary Oliver on the space nature provides for catharsis, so that we can move on to self-forgiveness. ~ OnBeing

Fathers are also vulnerable to postpartum changes in mood and anxiety. I'm grateful this topic is finally getting some p...
06/14/2016
Los Angeles Times

Fathers are also vulnerable to postpartum changes in mood and anxiety. I'm grateful this topic is finally getting some press!

Postpartum depression can happen to fathers as well as mothers.

The frustrating and beautiful thing about working on ourselves: things are not linear.
06/10/2016

The frustrating and beautiful thing about working on ourselves: things are not linear.

Some great comic illustrations about the spectrum of bipolar disorder experiences and how it feels to share them with ot...
05/16/2016
What Bipolar Disorder Really Feels Like.

Some great comic illustrations about the spectrum of bipolar disorder experiences and how it feels to share them with others.

About 2.6 percent of American adults — nearly 6 million people — have bipolar disorder, according to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH). But the disease, characterized by significant an…

The Trauma Project
05/08/2016

The Trauma Project

For today.

May you locate the ten thousand mothers that brought you into being and keep you going, no matter who and where you are. May you be the mother of uncounted possibilities and loves. ~ Rebecca Solnit

Postpartum Progress
05/04/2016

Postpartum Progress

Today is World Maternal Mental Health Day! Maternal mental health matters not just for moms, but for babies, partners, families, and society. Talking about it is so vitally important because it educates and lets moms know they're not alone if they're struggling.

Today we want you to #AskHer how she's really feeling. REALLY feeling. When she says, "I'm fine," ask again.

Q: Did anyone ask you how YOU were really feeling? -JH

PS: If you want to change your avatar on Twitter or Facebook for World Maternal Mental Health Day, you can follow this link: http://ow.ly/4npHcG #MaternalMHMatters

05/04/2016
www.fgcu.edu

It can be so hard to communicate what we need and feel that our needs are valid and worthy of others' loving attention! If you often feel resentful that your needs aren't met or frustrated that everyone else's needs seem to come before yours, it might be time to practice some assertiveness skills.
http://www.fgcu.edu/caps/files/Assertive_Communication.pdf

A timely post about the expectations of ourselves we bring to motherhood versus the realities of being a new mom.
04/28/2016
Postpartum Progress

A timely post about the expectations of ourselves we bring to motherhood versus the realities of being a new mom.

"But speaking that desolation was terrifying. I was a yoga teacher. I was supposed to weather the storms of parenthood with grace: be positive and perky, measured and resilient, lose the baby weight in a flash, thrive on green juice and quinoa whilst wearing my baby like a kangaroo." -Rachel Meyer of Rachel Meyer Yoga via Washington Post

There are certain groups of moms, like this honest yogi here, who feel they're supposed to come at motherhood in a certain way. This piece is raw and beautiful and leaves me wondering how we all come at motherhood with expectations... and what happens when those expectations shatter to the ground.

Q: What expectations of yourself did you come at motherhood with and how were they changed by your reality? -JH

(PS: Best line in the piece: "I bet Ruth Bader Ginsburg had a crockpot." True facts.)

How can we help when a friend or coworker or patient has had a miscarriage? Ask how they are and what has helped, and be...
04/27/2016
What I Gained from Having a Miscarriage

How can we help when a friend or coworker or patient has had a miscarriage? Ask how they are and what has helped, and be prepared to really listen.

When It Comes to Pregnancy Loss, There's So Much We Don't Talk About or Understand

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