08/28/2026
I have a problem saying no.
I also have a problem not volunteering for things. If there were 100 hours in a day, I’d probably spend 85 of them trying to help somebody.
I genuinely love helping people. I want to be there for my friends, my family, my community, and pretty much anyone who needs me. There are very few things that make me happier than feeling like I made someone else’s day a little easier.
But I’m also realizing that I stretch myself way too thin.
So I’m asking for a little grace.
Sometimes I say yes because I truly want to help, and then life gets busy, I have 100 things happening at once, and I drop the ball. It’s never because I don’t care. Usually it’s the opposite. I care about too many things at the same time.
Right now, I’m trying to be more intentional about where my time and energy go.
I have my normal job where I’m working around 45+ hours most weeks. Last week was 54 hours. The work can be mentally and physically exhausting, but it’s also incredibly meaningful to me and absolutely worth it.
I’m putting more focus into my health. I’m currently completely sober and haven’t had a drink in almost two weeks. I don’t think I ever had a drinking “problem,” but going out once or twice a week and having a few drinks had definitely become one of my ways to shut my brain off and relax. I’m trying to find healthier ways to do that.
I’m challenging myself physically too. I’m changing up my workouts, trying new things, and pushing myself outside of my comfort zone.
At the same time, I’m working on starting my personal training and nutrition coaching business, which is something I’m really excited about. This week I got my LLC officially approved by the state and my website live and ready. I’ll be fully live soon!
Two weeks ago, I was officially voted in as a board member of the Livonia Public Schools Education Foundation. I’m incredibly honored to have that opportunity, and I genuinely love the people I get to serve alongside.
I’m also still very active with the Livonia Moose, where I’m running or helping with a LOT of events and fundraisers. The Moose really has become my home away from home.
Those are my two biggest volunteer priorities. They fill my cup.
Between the two organizations, I’m pretty sure we’ve helped raise close to $100,000 this year for incredible causes that directly impact people in our community. I’m extremely grateful that I get to play even a small part in that.
But above all of those things are my daughters.
That’s the part I’m trying to remind myself of every time I say yes to something.
Every yes costs time somewhere else.
And too often, that time comes from them.
I can’t let that happen anymore.
My daughters are the most important thing in my life. They’re the reason I work as hard as I do and the reason I want to be a better person. I want them to grow up seeing their dad volunteer, serve his community, work hard, chase goals, and help people whenever he can.
But I also want them to grow up knowing that they were never second place to any of it.
So I’m learning to say no.
I’m learning that I don’t have to attend every event, volunteer for every project, solve every problem, or be everything to everybody.
I can still be someone who helps people without exhausting myself trying to help everyone.
My priorities right now are my daughters, my family, my health, my career, building my business, and the organizations I’ve already committed myself to.
If I occasionally have to say no, cancel something, take longer to respond, or admit that I simply don’t have the bandwidth, please know that it isn’t because I don’t care.
I’m just finally learning that sometimes saying no to something is how I say yes to the people and things that matter most.