03/09/2025
This month, as we celebrate women, and today, on International Women’s Day, I’ve been reflecting on the reality of being a woman in today’s world.
We celebrate strength, achievement, and resilience, but we often overlook the hurdles, pain, and suffering that so many women endure—often in silence.
We see the smiles, laughter, and positivity that women radiate, yet we forget to acknowledge the invisible labor and unseen trauma they carry.
Recently, I had another checkup with my oncologist and celebrated 29 months cancer-free.
When people think of illness, they picture weakness. But in these photos (top row), I felt miserable and had no idea I had cancer. I was in pain, fatigued, and felt unlike myself—but I still hiked, did pushups, situps, and participated in a leadership retreat at West Point. I still hosted friends and gatherings. I still worked. I was still doing everything. I just didn’t feel right.
In these photos (bottom row), I am learning what life is like after cancer. I feel so much better, but there’s no handbook for processing the trauma of major surgery or realizing how differently life could have turned out. Once you’ve had cancer, you realize how precious health and life are. I’m still hiking, hosting friends, and working. I’m still doing everything—I just feel different.
My journey may not be the same as anyone else’s, but that’s the beauty of being an individual and being a woman.
We are all on our own journeys, each different, each incredible in its own way. And each may come with struggles too.
For the women silently struggling right now, this message is for you.
Whatever you’re going through does not define you. Whatever hurdle is in your way, you can overcome it.
You will get through this. You will get past it. You are more than this.
You are worth it. You have done amazing things, and you will do even more incredible things in the future.
You may not see what’s ahead of you right now, but take it one step at a time. Eventually, you’ll see where you’re headed—and it will be everything you imagined and more.
Others may never understand your pain. They may never recognize the strength it took to get through today or acknowledge what it took to get up and move on.
Just promise me this—when you have a good day, take a moment to celebrate it.
Being a woman can be hard. It can feel impossible. But being a woman means being unlike anyone else. We are marvelous, and we make the world a better place.
Own it. Celebrate it. And keep giving your gift to this world.