Child Advocacy Center of Ottawa County

Child Advocacy Center of Ottawa County The Child Advocacy Center of Ottawa County provides services to those who are victims of child abuse and neglect.
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Operating as usual

02/03/2021
FASD Network of Southern California
01/14/2021

FASD Network of Southern California

Noticing our own triggers and reactions may enable parents and others who teach, treat, protect and interact in many ways with kids to pause before the cycle of deregulation starts in us. Each child mirrors the regulation, negative and positive, in the adult they spend time with.

drbeckyathome
01/13/2021

drbeckyathome

What if we stopped helping kids out of their struggles and started helping kids tolerate staying in their struggles? What if we stopped "fixing" and started... seeing? What if we did the same for our partners and ourselves?

Well first, let's address the understandable skepticism: Isn’t our job as parents to help our kids solve their problems – to go from not be able to do something to being able to do something, from frustration to calm?

Yes and no. Let me start with the No first, because it’s easier: We don’t need to help our kids get to a different place than where they are at right now as much as we need to help our kids tolerate and regulate at their current location. Same idea applies for a partner and ourselves.

Now here’s the Yes, and there’s an irony here. When any of us are able to approach “where we are now” with compassion and a feeling of good-enough-ness… our distress releases a bit and allows us to travel down the road to a new location.

The more we connect to anyone's struggles with allowing and understanding, the more that person is able to regulate and find internal resources to get to “the other side.”

Ok let’s get concrete because even I am thinking, “Ok Becky, be more practical here.”

Your younger child is struggling to put his socks on by himself. First take a deep breath (it's the start of all good things), then connect: “Getting socks on is SO tricky! Doing new things feels so hard.” Model your own struggle with socks and some regulation skills (“Ugh, I’m having a hard time too! Ok, deep breath, keep trying…”).

Your partner says he can’t figure out his latest work project. Instead of offering a solution, take a deep breath in his presence and then connect: “Ugh. That project sounds tricky. I'm here to talk it out if you want.”

You feel sad that you haven't seen your family in a while. Slow down, tell yourself, "I see you and feel you, sadness. You make sense. You're allowed to be there."

Watch what happens to everyone's resilience when we stop trying to fix and start trying to see and be with. And if this sounds like another version of choosing to be connected over choosing to be right... you're onto something.

Adverse Childhood Experiences - ACEs
12/04/2020

Adverse Childhood Experiences - ACEs

American SPCC/ American Society for the Positive Care of Children
10/10/2020

American SPCC/ American Society for the Positive Care of Children

1 out of 5 kids reports being bullied. Children who are being bullied may not exhibit the same warning signs.

Learn the signs of a child being bullied:
https://americanspcc.org/bullying-learn-the-signs/

To help more children from the damaging effects of bullying visit: https://bit.ly/3jMG6Gj

#NationalBullyingPreventionMonth

American SPCC/ American Society for the Positive Care of Children
10/08/2020

American SPCC/ American Society for the Positive Care of Children

Kids learn from adults’ actions. 👨‍👩‍👦

By treating others with kindness and respect, adults show the kids in their lives that there is no place for bullying. Even if it seems like they are not paying attention, kids are watching how adults manage stress and conflict, as well as how they treat their friends, colleagues, and families.

How do you want your child to see you today?

This #NationalBullyingPreventionMonth, learn how you can help prevent the damaging effects of bullying at: https://bit.ly/30JiISA

American SPCC/ American Society for the Positive Care of Children
10/06/2020

American SPCC/ American Society for the Positive Care of Children

Do you know the signs?

“Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated or has the potential to be repeated over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems."

October is #NationalBullyingPreventionMonth. This year, American SPCC is taking a strong stance against bullying.

Help us reach our goal of $5,000 to provide 20,000 parents, teachers, and caregivers across America with the tools needed to prevent bullying, mitigate its damaging effects, and reinforce positive self-esteem amongst youth and children.

Learn more and join us here: https://bit.ly/33yui4V

Adverse Childhood Experiences - ACEs
09/26/2020

Adverse Childhood Experiences - ACEs

American SPCC/ American Society for the Positive Care of Children
09/14/2020

American SPCC/ American Society for the Positive Care of Children

Child Safety Month 2020 is about raising awareness of the risks of child accidents and how they can be prevented. Parents and caregivers, let's take stock of how we can make our homes safer!

#ChildSafetyMonth #ProtectOurKids #SaveOurChildren #PositiveParenting

"Parenting is a full-time job, full of joys, trials, challenges, and triumphs. There is no doubt that parenting can be r...
09/02/2020
Positive Parenting - American SPCC

"Parenting is a full-time job, full of joys, trials, challenges, and triumphs. There is no doubt that parenting can be rewarding and exhausting all at the same time. No parent is perfect."

When we create harmony within ourselves, the home becomes harmonious. Parenting is a tough job, especially to do it well. We can learn and grow as parents and caregivers, together.

#SaveOurChildren #PositiveParenting

https://americanspcc.org/positive-parenting/

Positive Parenting. American SPCC supports healthy parent-child relationships, and is a strong proponent of non-violent, positive parenting. We hope to break the cycle of child maltreatment and violence, and have a positive effective on the well-being of children and families.

American SPCC/ American Society for the Positive Care of Children
09/02/2020

American SPCC/ American Society for the Positive Care of Children

September is Baby Safety Month! Here's a little reminder of how we can all protect our most precious cargo 👶
Remember: Child Injury is Predictable and Preventable!

#BabySafetyMonth #BabySafetyMonth2020 #SaveOurChildren #PositiveParenting

https://americanspcc.org/child-safety/

Thank you Cynthia Hollingsworth for your generous donations from our Amazon Wish List! 💙The CACOC is in need of some fur...
08/12/2020

Thank you Cynthia Hollingsworth for your generous donations from our Amazon Wish List! 💙

The CACOC is in need of some furniture, health & safety items for families and staff, some items to build Comfort Kits for the kids who come to our Center, and other books and materials for story time and lessons about things from bullying to body safety. You can sort our Amazon Wish List by priority and/or price.

If you would prefer to make a monetary donation, Checks can be made out to "Child Advocacy Center of Ottawa County" and mailed to us at 111 B St. SE, Miami, OK 74354.

If you have any questions, please feel free to message us on Facebook or give us a call. We greatly appreciate any and all contributions from our community during these hard times! 💙

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/RM3EOVJNLJP5?ref_=wl_share

Lauren's Kids
08/12/2020

Lauren's Kids

Conversations about personal and digital safety may seem intimidating, but they don’t have to be scary or uncomfortable. To help, we've released the Blueprint for Building Safer, Smarter Families Activity Packs to help teach personal safety, online safety, and abuse prevention from a place of fun – and not fear! Order your Activity Pack at shop.laurenskids.org today -- FREE for FL families! -- and check out even more age-specific strategies to help keep kids safe at SaferSmarterFamilies.org (free for ALL, not matter location!).

Lauren's Kids
08/04/2020

Lauren's Kids

95% of child sexual abuse IS preventable through education and awareness -- and victims can heal into thriving survivors with guidance and support. Learn more at LaurensKids.org

Thank you Cassie, Kim, and Deborah for your generous donations from our Amazon Wish List! 💙The CACOC is in need of some ...
08/04/2020

Thank you Cassie, Kim, and Deborah for your generous donations from our Amazon Wish List! 💙

The CACOC is in need of some furniture, health & safety items for families and staff, some items to build Comfort Kits for the kids who come to our Center, and other books and materials for story time and lessons about things from bullying to body safety. You can sort our Amazon Wish List by priority and/or price.

If you would prefer to make a monetary donation, Checks can be made out to "Child Advocacy Center of Ottawa County" and mailed to us at 111 B St. SE, Miami, OK 74354.

If you have any questions, please feel free to message us on Facebook or give us a call. We greatly appreciate any and all contributions from our community during these hard times! 💙

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/RM3EOVJNLJP5?ref_=wl_share

It's important for kids to have a safety network both inside and outside of the home. Parents, teachers, and community m...
08/03/2020
Lauren's Kids

It's important for kids to have a safety network both inside and outside of the home. Parents, teachers, and community members, talk to kids about who their safe adults are, and let them know that safe adults don't ask kids to keep secrets! Empower kids to speak up when something isn't right and if they feel upset, hurt, or scared.

“Most young trafficked children aren't sitting in a basement tied up. They have families, and someone—usually in their family—is trafficking them.”

Operation Underground Railroad
07/14/2020

Operation Underground Railroad

PART 1/2:
“Emily” was 6 months old when she was advertised for the first time on Craigslist to be r***d.

Her middle-class family had a film studio set up in their basement. They discreetly advertised that any buyer could come to their home and sexually abuse her. The family would film it, and then sell that video for more money online.

When they were eventually caught 4 years later, they said they liked that model because there were two ways to make money: the buyers would pay them to come to their home, and then hundreds more would pay them online for the video footage.

Emily was rescued when she was 4 years old and immediately placed with a loving family to begin healing.

We cannot let these vile acts happen to the most innocent among us. We must RISE UP and fight for these vulnerable children.

JULY 30TH is #WorldDayAgainstTrafficking. Text HELPTHEM to 51555 TODAY to join us in the fight this month. Will you stand with us? #RISEUP

Being in a child's life today gives that child the foundations for their future. Parents and caregivers, learn to live i...
07/06/2020

Being in a child's life today gives that child the foundations for their future.

Parents and caregivers, learn to live in the moment, practice patience, and above all, love your child.
https://americanspcc.org/positive-parenting/

Being in a child's life today gives that child the foundations for their future.

Parents and caregivers, learn to live in the moment, practice patience, and above all, love your child.
https://americanspcc.org/positive-parenting/

"Starting the conversation, rather than leaving it up to a child to bring up a difficult conversation is something we ca...
05/26/2020

"Starting the conversation, rather than leaving it up to a child to bring up a difficult conversation is something we can do, as adults, to help protect children. Even if a child never experienced inappropriate behavior that violates their bodily autonomy or personal safety, they can grow in self confidence knowing that no topic is too taboo for us to keep our children safe. "

Children are often told to be on ‘their best behavior’ and do what adults tell them to do. Safety, for many adults who experienced child sexual abuse, was not something that was talked about, especially safety from sexual abuse.

Normalizing conversations about body safety and bodily autonomy, just as we talk about washing hands, wearing a helmet, and using good manners is an invaluable culture change to address the risk of sexual abuse and grooming behaviors.

When children feel their personal safety is valued, they feel empowered and have the words to communicate inappropriate or abusive behavior.

Starting the conversation, rather than leaving it up to a child to bring up a difficult conversation is something we can do, as adults, to help protect children. Even if a child never experienced inappropriate behavior that violates their bodily autonomy or personal safety, they can grow in self confidence knowing that no topic is too taboo for us to keep our children safe.

For more, visit: TheMamaBearEffect.org

A 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization

Two medical students recently wrote an illustrated children’s book about coronavirus, to help parents of color communica...
05/15/2020
Why We Stay Home: A free book on coronavirus for children of color | The Milwaukee Independent

Two medical students recently wrote an illustrated children’s book about coronavirus, to help parents of color communicate with their children about why so many families across the nation have been staying home.

http://www.milwaukeeindependent.com/articles/stay-home-free-book-coronavirus-children-color/?fbclid=IwAR03H9Kqzl15fiXvpGKE1CSncwgUBz2wW6umqWB_Rx7pgbQa9rrcWGULA-g

Why We Stay Home: A free book on coronavirus for children of color Posted by Staff | May 6, 2020 | Articles, COVID-19 | Two medical students recently wrote an illustrated children’s book about coronavirus, to help parents of color communicate with their children about why so many families across t...

Our friends at the Community Crisis Center are having a fundraiser! Enjoy some gourmet popcorn while helping a great cau...
05/05/2020

Our friends at the Community Crisis Center are having a fundraiser! Enjoy some gourmet popcorn while helping a great cause. 💜💙🍿

Save the Date! Our Double Good Pop-Up Popcorn Shop opens up next Monday- May 11th at 8:00am. CCC will receive 50% of all sales to support our local & vital programs for victims. This will take the place of our Spring/Summer Fundraisers that were cancelled due to COVID-19.

Ray of Hope Advocacy Center
04/23/2020

Ray of Hope Advocacy Center

It's hard when everyone is feeling the extra stress of job loss, distance learning, and isolation but, here are some ways to keep things positive for your family.

#PositiveParenting
#ConnectionBeforeCorrection
#HealthyFamilies

Ray of Hope Advocacy Center
03/19/2020

Ray of Hope Advocacy Center

03/18/2020
Adults aren't the only ones who are worried about COVID-19 (aka the Coronavirus). Kids can also feel a lot of anxiety as...
03/16/2020

Adults aren't the only ones who are worried about COVID-19 (aka the Coronavirus). Kids can also feel a lot of anxiety as schools and businesses close, media makes updates on the global reaction, adults discuss the virus, and many are stockpiling and/or practicing social distancing to stop the spread of the virus. Here are some resources for talking to kids about health, safety, and helping kids destress as the world reacts to the pandemic.

PBS Kids links: https://www.pbs.org/parents/thrive/how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-coronavirus

"How to Talk to Kids About the Coronavirus" for parents - Child Mind Institute: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WhVad8ToCiU

Make Germs Scatter Demonstration/Experiment (good hand washing): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=djxmuDz8c3s

"COVID-19 and Children" - CDC: https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/prepare/children-faq.html?CDC_AA_refVal=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cdc.gov%2Fcoronavirus%2F2019-ncov%2Fspecific-groups%2Fchildren-faq.html

Modeling consent and healthy boundaries is so important for educating all ages!
03/11/2020
NSVRC

Modeling consent and healthy boundaries is so important for educating all ages!

The creative mind behind the Tea and Consent viral video released a book about consent, bodily autonomy, and trust.

The Mama Bear Effect
03/10/2020

The Mama Bear Effect

The younger the child, the more likely it is for the person to commit sexual abuse against them, to be a family member or trusted caregiver.

Children associate these people as protectors, authority figures - respected and loved by them and other people they trust.

Sexual abuse is not often committed as an ‘attack’ but a hug, tickle game, or close relationship that becomes inappropriate - it may be so subtle or happen so early the child may not even know it’s wrong.

▪️As the secrecy is maintained over time, they may sense that there is something not right, as such behavior is often not talked about but occurs away from others.

▪️If no one is educating the child and specifically being open that people they trust are not allowed to share or touch private parts, they may still view sexual abuse as something strangers do - something scary that makes them want to run away, but only rarely is this the case.

▪️In many cases there is no one to run to, because the person abusing them is the person they’ve been raised to trust.

▪️If this person is doing something that isn’t right, where can they go and what will happen? It’s extremely confusing to children and as adults we have the opportunity to educate them early and often, honestly and openly.

▪️For many children, the first educational lesson in body safety will occur after they’ve already experienced abuse. Educators must be prepared for this possibility.

▪️Telling children they *must* yell and run away may only make the child feel responsible for not doing the ‘right’ thing. They may feel it’s too late to tell and that it’s their fault.

▪️Children should be educated to know that abuse is never ever their fault and that it is never to late to tell someone- whether it happened once or countless times, there are people who will believe and support them, because they are innocent and it’s our job as adults to help protect them, it’s not something a child should ever have to face alone.

▪️Children all over the world have had this happen to them and there is no shame in asking for help because someone else broke a body safety rule. We are here talking about it because we want them to know how precious and worthy they are of protection and to be treated properly.

▪️When is the ‘right’ age to talk about body safety? We can start by talking with the adults we trust around our children to promote safe behaviors and awareness. Toddlers can begin to be taught proper names for all their body parts, what privates are, and that their bodies are special - that is is always right to talk to us if they have a question.

Our book on Amazon, My Body is Special and Private, was specifically printed as a sturdy board book so young children can have access to a book that is geared towards helping parents normalize these lessons.

▪️Child sexual abuse is an epidemic, not because sexual abusers are unstoppable, but because the ignorance, silence, and denial that surrounds this topic makes it that much more challenging for protective adults to be properly educated and supported.

▪️We’ve spoken with people who have grandchildren and great grandchildren that said they never spoke to their children about it - well, it’s still not too late, because we know many adults are still holding onto secrets that need to be told, and younger generations will absolutely benefit from havinng grandparents that promote body safety.

📣Every positive, empowering, protective voice matters. Including yours.

#RockTheTalk

TheMamaBearEffect.org

A 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization

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111 B St SE
Miami
74354

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My story of overcoming sexual abuse and how a CAC helped me go on to become an Olympian.