Attachment Parenting is a positive, loving, empathetic style of parenting with the goal of fulfilling our child's need for trust. Attachment Parenting is a positive, loving, empathetic style of parenting with the goal of fulfilling a child's need for trust, empathy, and affection necessary to create healthy attachments and secure, enduring relationships.
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Operating as usual
Day 1: What toys do they gravitate toward? What is not typically used?
Day 2: When and where does play happen most?
Day 3: What times of day are they most likely to get into deep, imaginative, independent
play (FLOW)? Are you noticing a pattern or rhythm?
30 Days of play
Discover deeper joy and connection by speaking your
child's natural language.
In the next 30 days, you are going to learn to observe your children from a place of non-judgmental acceptance, dig deep into your thoughts and feelings that arise in your role as a parent, and start building a deeper, more meaningful connection with your children... all through the medium of PLAY.
In this journal, you will find everything you need to get started on this new path. You will find additional support in the form of videos, prompts, and inspiration in the Balanced Parenting Community on Facebook.
Let's get started!
guiding principles
Honor and Respect Play
Stay Curious and Open
Avoid Interrupting and Evaluating
Set Limits Sparingly: Focus on Safety
Have Fun!
three phases
OBSERVE: Days 1-10 are all about
learning to observe your child carefully
and non-judgmentally.
REFLECT: Days 11-20 focus on exploring
your thoughts, feelings, and memories
around your child's, and your own, play
ACT: In Days 21-30 you will be invited to
take specific actions and observe and
reflect upon the outcome.
For the next 30 days, I want you to set aside 10 minutes each day to focus on your child's play. During the observation phase, these ten minutes will be spent observing your child and focusing in on the given prompt. During the reflection phase, you can spend these ten minutes reflecting on the journal prompt from that day. If you have time and it isn't too stressful you can also add in some dedicated play observation time. You will learn a lot about yourself and your child by watching their play.
Finally, during the action phase, you will be taking those ten minutes to take a specific directed action involving play. These are sometimes things you'll do with your child and sometimes they are things for you to do on your own, but they will
all ultimately begin to shift and transform the way play happens in your home.
Hey, guys. I've been thinking and I'm going to post the 10min play journal here and we can use the thread that day as our journal. Right now I'll start posting the guidelines and the first day. For those of you who have the journal and notice, I forget a day, help me out!! TY
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