30/05/2026
It’s time for a Journey to Justice JEWEL. 💎 💎Like other jewels, we hope ours prove to be valuable in helping our followers dealing with a loved one diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or a dementia.
QUESTION: My loved one with Alzheimer’s repeatedly tells me, “I want to go home.” What do I do?
Why are they doing this?
First, you must understand that a request to go home, from a dementia individual, is usually a request that they are seeking COMFORT rather than going somewhere.
Please continue reading for suggestions to help you though this stressful situation.
First and most importantly, DO NOT try to use reason and logic with them. This will only serve to escalate the situation. Then, you will be dealing with an angry, agitated loved one. Nothing good will come from you telling them “this IS your home” or “you live HERE now.”
Secondly, don’t be afraid to agree with their request. You can agree by telling them, “Sure we can do that, but since it’s lunch time, let’s eat lunch first.” This helps to validate that you are not telling them NO and they are not wrong. Then, after agreeing, you can subtly begin the process of distracting and redirecting their attention.
Through the entire conversation, try to stay CALM. If you stay calm, they will begin to calm down, too. If your loved one has always enjoyed a good hug, now may be the time to provide this needed comfort. Telling my Mother how much I love her and that she is “my best friend” often puts a smile on her face and diverts her thoughts about “going to Grandma’s house.” Giving her a treasured item in her room, a stuffed teddy bear, old pictures, a card from a loved one that she begins reading can also divert her to a place of comfort and change the trajectory of her thoughts.
Another approach to divert these thoughts to “go home” is to ask the person to tell you about their home. After awhile, this may allow you to maneuver the conversation to another topic where they feel comforted and content.
If your loved one remains focused on “going home” and nothing has worked, you may want to take them on a brief car ride. When my dear Mother in-law remained focused on “going home”, we did just that. She thoroughly enjoyed the drive (and the ice cream cone). Driving past her home, she showed no recollection of this being her home. However, the change in scenery, the conversation, and of course the ice cream cone, brought her the comfort she was obviously seeking.
We, at Journey to Justice have been there. We have used these approaches with our loved ones. We hope our JtoJ JEWELS are valuable tools for your toolbox. 💜💜💜