08/09/2026
The Power of Reconnection
Jacob went into care when he was just a baby. He is now 12 years old, and after moving around many different foster homes, he is thankfully now in a stable long term foster care placement.
When I met Jacob, it had been over three years since he last saw his parents, which made him very sad and confused, as he wondered why his parents didn’t stay in touch. In our Therapeutic Life Story Work (TLSW) sessions, we have been supporting Jacob to make sense of his story. Together we discuss possible reasons for his parents not contacting him, perhaps they feel ashamed and guilty and don’t know where to start. This helps Jacob realise it is not his fault, to counter his self-narrative of “I’m not good enough”.
Through Therapeutic Life Story work, the parents were contacted, and after many attempts, they finally agreed to meet with Jacob.
Jacob and his parents met at a park, had lunch, played Uno and put stickers on each other. Most importantly, with tears in their eyes, both parents explained to Jacob that they both have significant mental health issues that prevented them from taking care of him when he was born, and that is why he went into care. However, they love him very much and are very proud of his achievements. Jacob has a blue belt in Karate and he loves to swim and to skate. He is very good at art and has shared some of his favourite paintings with his parents.
Jacob’s parents said they were very happy to have reconnected with Jacob, and that they look forward to staying in touch with him going forward.
*All names and images have been changed to protect the young person’s identity.