17/05/2026
Day 6 of 30 days of tips.
I learned this in TCI training and it changed how I work.
When a young person is escalating, drop the rope.
Don’t engage in the tug of war. Don’t fight for the last word. Don’t try to establish power over them in a moment they’re already overwhelmed.
Because here’s the thing — when a young person’s nervous system is activated, they don’t need a stronger adult.
They need a safe one.
Drop the rope.
Let them come back to baseline.
Then keep teaching. Keep building rapport. Keep showing up.
This connects to yesterday’s tip on scaffolding. Day 5 was about not stepping in too fast. Day 6 is about not pushing back too hard. Both come from the same place: the young person isn’t the problem to manage. The relationship is the thing to protect.
Save this for the next time you feel yourself reaching for the rope.
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Yos | Founder, Elevate Youth Lab™
Building rapport with young people across NSW.