09/20/2026
Post by Kate Vrastak
Today at the Garlic Festival, while I was spending time at the Bereaved Families of Ontario booth, I witnessed something that stayed with me. ❤️
A gentleman dressed as Deadpool stopped by — a superhero in costume, yes, but what touched me most had nothing to do with the costume.
It was his humility.
He didn’t rush toward people. He didn’t assume everyone wanted an interaction, a hug, a conversation, or even a picture.
He simply showed up.
He held space.
And he trusted people — children and adults alike — to approach him when they were ready.
That may sound like such a small thing, but to me, it speaks volumes about trust, consent, boundaries and what it means to make another human being feel safe.
It reminded me of three simple things we can all practice:
✨ Acknowledge. See the person in front of you without judgment.
✨ Allow. Give them the space to feel what they feel and come forward in their own time.
✨ Ask and receive permission. Whether it is a photograph, a conversation, a hug or simply entering someone’s personal space — boundaries matter.
This is how trust begins.
And sometimes, this is how healing begins too — from the roots up. 🌱
Especially with our young people, we cannot expect them to immediately open up simply because we are adults, educators, helpers or leaders. We first have to create enough safety for them to decide that they can trust us.
Then we listen.
We hold space.
And we allow the relationship to grow.
I am continuing to learn this myself. Sometimes our greatest act of leadership is not having the perfect words or trying to fix what is in front of us. Sometimes it is being still enough to recognize the gift another person may be offering us.
Thank you, Deadpool, for stopping by today and for the kindness, patience and humility you continue to bring into our Cornwall community.
Maybe being a superhero isn’t always about wearing a costume.
Maybe sometimes it simply means helping another person feel safe enough to be themselves. ❤️
And if putting on a superhero costume helps one child smile, feel seen, or find the courage to take one little step closer — that matters.
May we all find our own way to be that kind of superhero for someone. 🫶