09/30/2026
Darlene was born in 1950 on Ahtahkakoop First Nation in Saskatchewan. Her mother was a residential school survivor. Her father had managed to hide from officials as a child, and when they came looking for Darlene years later, he hid her too.
โMy dad saved me,โ she says.
Darlene remembers happy days growing up on the reserve, surrounded by extended family. She also remembers government vehicles arriving to take her siblings away to residential school for the year, and how they cried as they were loaded up. Her siblings rarely spoke about what happened while they were away. Even as adults, they kept much of those experiences to themselves.
For Darlene, the โtruthโ in Truth and Reconciliation is self-explanatory. โSharing the truth of residential schools is a big thing,โ she says. โThey wanted to pound the Indian out of us.โ
Despite growing up among residential school survivors, Darlene says the subject was largely off limits. It wasnโt until university that she began learning more about the residential school system and the treaties, another part of her history that had never been taught to her.
But she also remembers the ways her culture continued quietly. As a child, Darlene once asked her grandmother if she could take one of the ribbons she saw tied to trees for her hair. Her grandmother told her they couldnโt touch them. The ribbons were markers showing people where secret ceremonies were being held.
Eventually, her grandmother took her to one. They followed the ribbons deep into the bush until they reached a clearing filled with people, with a lodge in the centre, drumming and dancers.
Darlene was taught that learning begins with Elders, and that it comes through watching and experience. The lesson was there, but you had to choose to come over, sit beside them and learn.
For Darlene, there is something in that lesson that applies to Truth and Reconciliation too.
The invitation to learn is there. Itโs up to us to take the initiative, to sit, watch and listen.
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