10/17/2026
Ever tried to talk to your child about screen time or online safety when they're already upset?
Sometimes the problem isn't that they're refusing to listen. They're not in a state where they can listen.
The Window of Tolerance describes the zone where we can think, feel, connect and have a productive conversation. When we're highly activated or completely shut down, meaningful conversation becomes much harder.
So before talking about rules or consequences, try to regulate first.
Things that can help include:
• A calm, predictable environment
• Enough sleep and food
• Movement or time outside
• Feeling heard and understood
• Breathing or mindfulness
• And when emotions are running high?
Pause. Regulate. Return.
The conversation isn't lost. It's just not ready yet.