BetterThanThis

13/12/2022

18/05/2022

Be more TREE, even when the ground falls away, reach out, take root and stand tall ♥️

09/02/2022

As long we celebrate our own journey and the effort, that’s the only opinion that should count. Can’t blame others for not walking in our shoes 🙏

27/01/2022

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This excerpt from our book is really resonating with you and we LOVE TO SEE IT. We live in a world that cares more about how everyone else SEES girls and FEELS about their bodies and clothes than how girls SEE themselves and FEEL in their bodies and clothes. That should be 🔥infuriating🔥, but it's usually an invisible norm we all just live with because “that’s just the way things are.”

➕In “More Than a Body,” we describe the dangers of policing girls and women for dress code violations and teaching them to dress modestly as a protection for others. We also lay out the *solutions* for this widespread problem, including examples of dress codes and mindset reframes that allow people their full humanity.

✖️We have all been taught to see women as objects to be looked at, judged, used, and discarded. Where men are clearly seen as more than bodies, women are not afforded that humanity. As their looks are emphasized over all else, girls learn and re-learn to experience their bodies from a sexualized outside perspective – as objects to be looked at. She becomes an onlooker to herself, her own 24-hour body police, joining the rest of the world in enforcing our culture’s arbitrary and unachievable standards of beauty and attractiveness against herself. In the midst of this unyielding cycle of objectification, she is not only held accountable for how she presents herself, but for how she is *perceived.*

✖️We can do better. If we can learn to *see more* in everyone else, and remain accountable for our own thoughts & actions regardless of what anyone is wearing, we can *be more* as individuals and a society. When you objectify someone, you see them and treat them as less human than you. You are more prone to disrespect and harm them. You do the same to yourself when you value yourself for your parts over your humanity. And FYI, we’ve posted on the way the fashion industry sexualizes girls & women in previous posts.

➕MORE THAN A BODY by Lexie & Lindsay Kite, PhD, is available in hardcover📚, paperback, audiobook🎧, & Kindle📱anywhere you buy books. You can find it here, along with other body image resources: https://linktr.ee/beauty_redefined

26/01/2022

Amazing! I would 100% support this!
As a single new mum, who was living in emergency accommodation, with an 8 month old and no internet when I first started BTT, this would have been a dream come true!

"Having fun isn't hard when you've got a library card!" — Arthur

Season 25 of our favorite aardvark's Elwood City adventures premieres next month on GBH-2 and the PBS KIDS Video app: pbs.org/Arthur

10/01/2022

When you take one step, and the whole world opens up.

08/12/2021

Thought of the day 🧐

We talk so much about the statistics of women who have had some form of abuse growing up or in adulthood.
In all the research I’ve done over the last few years, just to get to this point (which has been a lot!) I’ve noticed it’s rare and difficult to find the statistics of boys/men that ARE/HAVE abused someone.
And truth be told I don’t know what the words or phrases would be to type into a search bar to find out. Shame on me.

So my next mission!

To find these figures, and try and bring to the attention of everyone, that to really help make a dent is to finally change the perspective. Let’s help our sons learn about mutual respect and compassion. Let’s talk about their statistics and how to turn this around.

Victim blaming can’t continue! There has to be a better way, it has to be

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Ps any suggestions for the search bar are welcome, I will post statistics for everyone as I find them xx

30/11/2021

BetterThanThis 👊

21/10/2021

Wow! First day with the Lloyds Bank start up program completed 🥂
I have decided to bring you guys in on my journey.
Starting right back at the beginning.

So we have gone straight in with what our vision, mission and values are, I have struggled with this because truth be told my vision is to END ALL CRIMES AGAINST CHILDREN. Full stop. A big ask I know, but even if I can help just one child, then that’s a great start.
My mission- Is to give young people the tools an knowledge to help protect themselves and others around them. To lift the stigma, and to give them a safe space where they can rest, reflect and reevaluate their lives and support them in taking the next step to freeing themselves from the wrongs that have been done to them.

And my 5 values - justice, determination, understanding, compassion and stability.

These are just what we worked on today, (along with many other important topics)
Please feel free to share any inputs, ideas or collaboration!

I’m so excited to be on this journey. The next 12 months are going to be challenging, exciting, inspirational and above all worth every second of the last 2 years that have got me this far 💖