13/02/2026
Worried about doing something? Carpe Diem
In Top Gun: Maverick there’s a scene I love.
Maverick is told the mission can’t be done. The timing is too tight. The risk is unacceptable. The margins are too small.
There’s plenty of experience in the room. Plenty of reasons to dial it down.
So he doesn’t argue.
He gets in the cockpit and flies the profile himself.
He shows them.
When I left the RAF, I had my own version of that moment. Although it involved less G force and a lot more sun cream.
I bought a very large caravan and decided to take my two boys, aged four and five, to France for six weeks. On my own. My husband would fly out intermittently, but day to day, it was down to me.
In my head, it was manageable.
Then I started telling people.
“Oh I couldn’t do that.”
“What if the caravan breaks down?”
“What if one of the boys gets sick?”
“What if something goes wrong?”
They weren’t saying I couldn’t do it. They were saying they wouldn’t.
But slowly, their doubt became mine.
I started lying awake at night running through worst case scenarios. Stranded on a French motorway. Two small boys. No backup.
It felt very much like that Top Gun briefing room. Lots of sensible voices. Not much belief.
Then I caught myself.
In the Air Force, when a task looked stretching, we didn’t amplify the fear. We assessed the risk, put mitigations in place and got on with it.
So that’s what I did.
We went.
It wasn’t perfect. We got lost. There were wobbles. There were moments I questioned my sanity.
But there were also long breakfasts outside the caravan, bike rides, laughter and a deep sense of freedom.
Most importantly, my boys saw their mum take on something that felt big. They saw that fear doesn’t mean stop.
That is leadership.
Not Hollywood heroics.
The everyday decision to go first.
As leaders, we are always modelling what is possible. If we echo every doubt in the room, people shrink. If we assess, decide and move, belief grows.
Sometimes you just have to fly the valley.
Or board the ferry, drive the caravan onto French soil and discover that you were more capable than the briefing room suggested.