21/09/2025
Dear Beloved Single Sisters and Brothers,
There are moments in this journey of waiting when life does not unfold the way you thought it would. You prayed, you fasted, and you were certain you had heard God’s voice. You believed He said, “This is the one.” But then your eyes opened to a different reality. The person you thought was yours is holding someone else’s hand, smiling, already walking in another relationship.
What do you do with that kind of disappointment? Do you fight for them? Do you argue with God? Do you twist scripture trying to convince yourself, or them, that they still belong to you? I have learned, sometimes through tears, that love is never forced and neither is the will of God. He whispers, but He never manipulates. If God does not force His will on us, why should we try to force it on anyone else?
The first thing is to respect their choice. That is not weakness, it is freedom. Don’t reduce yourself to watching their every move, scrolling through their pictures, waiting for cracks to appear. That is not faith, it is bo***ge, and bo***ge dries up your oil.
Do not drag up the past to make them look unworthy. That is the enemy’s work, keeping records of wrongs. God does not do that. He embraces the present and offers hope for the future. And please, do not let envy hide behind “concern.” Stop whispering, “What did he even see in her?” Stop throwing shade, mocking appearances, or posting indirect messages on social media. When you do that, your own oil runs dry and you risk missing your banquet.
Instead, here is the better way. Carry your lamp, and do not forget the oil. That oil is your worship, your purity, and your purpose. Just like the wise virgins, you will need it when the true groom comes. You may not know the hour, but you know what is required: be ready.
Go back to your Maker with your confusion and your pain. Tell Him honestly how you feel. He is not shocked by your honesty. Then hold onto what He has already spoken. If He said He would write your marriage story, then let Him hold the pen. He does not lie. He does not play games. His word is higher than His name, and His will concerning you will not fail.
Keep the faith, even if it feels shaky. Hold on to His promise: “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” His presence is far more precious than any human companionship. And when the right one comes, you will see that the waiting, the tears, and even the disappointments were not wasted.
Take this as a lesson. People can disappoint you. Circumstances can confuse you. But Jesus will always remain steady. He is your way, your truth, and your life. He will not let you miss your portion.
So, dear sister, dear brother, lift your eyes again. Do not let bitterness steal your oil. Do not let envy blind you. Keep your lamp burning bright. The Bridegroom is on His way, and He is faithful.
With love,
A fellow traveler in waiting