Forever Mums

05/04/2025

STAGE 2: I AM ALONE!

Suddenly becoming alone, can be a shock. Responsibilities, burdens, chores, worries, night times and dramas handled by two people are now solely yours.

But loneliness MUST be overcome for your sake and your children.

- Accept the truth
- Let go of old dreams (you need new ones)
- Dont look to another man to depend on
- Transfer your dependence on God
- Believe who you really are in God, loved
- Find a friend you can trust and share with
- Involve yourself and kids in the local Church, surrounded my mentors

Ephesians 1:5, 5,1 & Isiah 41:10

STAGE 3: WHY ME?!

Bitterness is the infection that gets into a wounded heart.

It goes against God, his will and his love for us. If you are bitter, you harbour hatred, murder, unforgiveness and revenge in your heart.

It will take you away from God, it will isolate you from people who love you and damage your own children.

There is hope and a future for you:
- Realise and admit your bitterness
- Repent and get close to God through prayer and study
- Forgive yourself
- Forgive the one/s who have hurt you

Don't be too hard on yourself, some things take time, especially if hurtful situations are ongoing, repeat the above as necessary.

Acts 8:22-23. Ephesians 4:31-32. Hebrews 12:15

29/03/2025

Its too much!

The first lesson to assist us in parenting is dealing with grief

Grief comes in many areas and you can wrestle with a few of the below or all:
- Physical death of spouse
- Death of relationship
- Death of future hopes, dreams or plans
- Death of love
- Death of intimacy
- Death of trust and faithfulness

For healing to start, grief must have a witness, you must release the emotional pressure built up from sorrow.

Talk to God, he blesses those who mourn for they will be comforted. He heals the broken hearted, binding up their wounds.

Write an honest letter to yourself or to the one you are grieving over. Be blunt and real, forgive yourself and them, then burn or bury the letter.

Its okay for your children to see you grieve but they also must see you recover over time, remember they are also grieving and they will learn from you, how to cope and how to talk.

Matthew 5:4
Psalm 147:3
Isiah 66:13
2 Corinthians 1:3
Acts 9:31b

29/03/2025

Started a new series of study for 2025! This year we are focusing on us as parents. Based on book by Robert G.Barnes, Jr, called "Single Parenting"

This is a series for mums, grandmothers or caregivers raising children either single or in difficult circumstances.

Come and join us.

12/03/2024

Jesus cares about you and understands, talk with him, then trust him and take action where you know he is showing you to walk.

30/12/2023

For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that whoever believes in him will not perish but have eternal life - John 3.16

Find Jesus and you will find your true value and self-worth.

Greater love has no one then this, then to lay down ones life for his friends - John 15:13

True love is a life laid down, of which he did for you and me.

Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close - Psalm 27:10

Manipulation and narcissism are the opposite of true love, because they seek their own, it is not love. The lie is for your good but the truth is for their want.

You are worth more, you are worth God's love and desire for you.

Ask him to reveal himself to you!

19/12/2023

All welcome to come enjoy a free entertaining night out for your family, this Saturday evening

16/12/2023

What is your focus this Christmas?

Awesome time today and a special bonus wonderful solo mum coming out for her first time, who's also recovery from cancer treatment.

We had a good talk about our focus this Christmas. We shouldn't be focusing on our past Christmas holiday times and yearning for those.

Your present circumstance may look different now. Jesus' first Christmas was just his mum and adoptive Father in a dirty shed, BUT God provided strangers to care and celebrate with them, bringing gifts.

FOCUS ON JESUS

Not every Christmas will be your best but if you keep your focus on Jesus, Christmas will be good.

In Jesus is love, joy, peace, blessing and refreshing

Psalm 84:1-7

Even when times of weeping come upon you, its okay, talk to Jesus and you will find refreshment. Psalm 84:6

Remember, heaven is our real home!

We finished with a list of practical things you can do to help you focus this Christmas. Some things if you have your kids this Christmas and some things if you don't have your kids this Christmas.

Then we got creative and decorated gingerbread cookies to take home while we fellowshipped and had many laughs over our skills.

Thank you Mums, please make contact if you need any help or prayer over this season.

You are doing a wonderful job and God Bless You!!

05/12/2023

Every mum suffers to some degree of mum guilt, from realizing you are pregnant until the rest of your life. The list is endless of what you could feel guilt from and its different for all.

Let's pretend you live in "Guiltmore National Park" and you climb and spend time on the energy sapping mountains of:
- Mount Shoulda
- Mount Woulda
- Mount Coulda
- Mount Inconsistency
- Mount Unimaginable

Psalm 38:4 - My guilt overwhelms me, it is a burden too heavy to bear.

Don't wallow on these mountains of mum guilt, you will get nowhere and they will sap your energy and strength.

Recognise if the guilt is genuine wrong or just emotional wishes, repent, forgive yourself and others and move forward.

Get off those mountains and get down to "Graceland"

Apply the same grace you give other mums to yourself.

You pour your life into your children, its not perfect, but you give it your best shot. You cannot be a perfect parent.

Psalm 34:6 I cried out to the LORD in my suffering, and he heard me. He set me free from all my fears.

13/05/2023

Come joins us for our Mothers Day service. Sunday morning 10.30am 14th May.

Be honored and blessed as a mum.

You are doing a great job!!

11/03/2023

Keep your trust in God because:

Your own grief qualifies you with understanding for your own child that may be grieving.

Your own broken heart equips you with understanding for your child in a broken home.

And your own healing in Jesus Christ equips you to comfort them.

You are the best person for the job of the child/ren God has blessed you with.

God has chosen you and he will not fail to equip you

Charles Spurgeon said "Impart to the young soul, your own soul".

05/01/2023

Transformation, purpose and future can come out of our trauma.

Don't give up, God has good things for you, a future and a hope.

Here is a story of a mother and her advice, from being thrust into single motherhood after 20yrs of marriage into a new future and purpose of bring used by God.

Psalm 34:6-8 I cried out to the LORD in my suffering, and he heard me. He set me free from all my fears. For the angel of the LORD guards all who fear him, and he rescues them. Taste and see that the LORD is good. Oh, the joys of those who trust in him!

When a significant relationship ends, the wreckage of a life lost causes us to experience deep grief and PTSD. Tracie Miles of COMPEL and Proverbs 31 Ministr...

29/12/2022

Don't be discouraged or crave for glamour and "freedom", you matter and your parenting matters. You are doing a great thing, raising up children. Your children are your most important deciples!

Glamour and fame pass away and will leave you empty handed.