All Age Adoptions Plus

04/27/2024

The last few years have taught me that when it is our time to leave this body no one can stop it. We have one life to live, The material things we invest in are left behind only to be discarded. Memories are important to me so l'm going to start a reunion of friends and family, The idea is to see who reads a post without a picture. I hope y'all read the post, this will be a very short experiment. But if you're reading this message make a comment using a single word about how we met. Please don't just view without leaving a word. You'll ruin all the fun and reminiscing..

06/08/2023

08/02/2020

White and parenting or thinking about parenting a black child ....
this is a good read ....

07/25/2020

Emmanuel Acho sits down with Aaron & Jamie Ivey + their kids, to have an uncomfortable conversation about the struggles, differences and what they have learn...

07/14/2020

The author of “White Fragility” and an expert on racialized trauma together — a deep dive into the calling of our lifetimes.

07/10/2020

The state of will now be requiring health care workers (including therapists I assume but I haven't investigated it that closely) to receive implicit bias training. The executive directive was signed yesterday and I watched people really burst into flames over this. They called it offensive, racist, etc., insisting that health care workers never allow their bias to enter into their treatment of patients, etc. etc.

The thing about implicit bias is that it's IMPLICIT. Meaning- it's not in our awareness. Implicit bias is like always wearing colored lenses that shift the way we see everything in the world. But the lenses are always on and everything is colored and we don't remember or never had a time when everything WASN'T colored so we have no idea we are seeing everything through this lens. It's something that is true about all of us. We all have implicit bias. We need our implicit to impact our actions otherwise the amount of explicit thinking we would have to do about EVERYTHING would literally create a dead-lock and we'd never do anything.

Our implicit out-numbers our explicit (the things we ARE aware of) 11 MILLION to 50.

Well, the estimate is 6-50 but I went ahead and gave the high end.

Our brains can't really comprehend that ratio. So let's just say our implicit is more powerful than we think.

This is NOT CRITICISM. It's just a thing.

Implicit bias in health care (and lots of places- like social work and child welfare and basically everything but we are talking specifically about health care) is extremely well researched and documented. This is not a hypothesis. It's an actual thing and people actually die from it. AND there is research that shows simply LEARNING about implicit bias changes those outcomes. IT PREVENTS PEOPLE FROM DYING.

It's not criticism. It's not racist. It's just memory science.

07/10/2020

Be the delays physical, cognitive, emotional or a combination, getting support and helping the world understand your child is a huge part of the parenting journey.

07/03/2020

Parenting is a complex job for most every family, but raising kids across racial lines presents its own set of challenges. But there are many excellent resources for non-Black parents of Black children available to help caretakers navigate the…

04/14/2020

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04/09/2020

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04/02/2020

UPDATE: Due to the overwhelming response to our free online training offer, we are moving the free access to these trainings to a different platform.

Thank you for your patience as we pause free access to TBRI 101 and TBRI & Trauma-Informed Classrooms until Monday, April 13.

Details on how to access these trainings at no cost will be available beginning Monday, April 13 through June 30, 2020. We will provide an update on this page as well as at child.tcu.edu/sale.
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We're offering FREE 30-day access to our digital trainings through May 31!

We hope these resources are helpful to parents, professionals and students alike during this time of social distancing.

Visit child.tcu.edu/sale to learn more.

02/29/2020

11/06/2019

I'm also very against pre-matching and adoptive parents being in the delivery room and having a mother sign a legal contract immediately after giving birth... That's all coercion in my book...

11/05/2019

It's the love story you've been waiting to see.

11/04/2019

When you’d children know you’ve got their back it’s a game changer.

09/23/2019

06/01/2019

Business and traffic in Water Street in Monrovia

04/09/2019

Day 9: Antiracist Parenting: Principles vs. Practice (Homework Assignment!)
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As mentioned last night, today we are asking white parents to read a journal article by Sarah Matlock and Robin DiAngelo called: “’We Put It in Terms of Not-Nice’: white Antiracists and Parenting”. It can be accessed here:https://robindiangelo.com/2018site/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Not-Nice_-Antiracists-Parenting.pdf

It is approximately 20 pages long, so please block out some time. This article focuses on a study involving white parents, but is a worthwhile read for anyone interested in interrogating what it means to apply and practice antiracism in parenting (as opposed to just learning and talking about it). We invite anyone (you don’t have to be white, you don’t have to be a parent) to join us in reading. ➡️Please respond in the comments with at least 1 thing you learned from the article and how you are going to apply what you learned to your own parenting.⬅️
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“The research shows that white parents who identify with antiracism values are almost universally contradicting their value system in significant ways. Antiracist white parents overall were aware of racism as a system of oppression that conferred unearned privileges, and they conveyed this awareness to their children, but there was minimal modeling of antiracist action. Awareness must be raised within the community of white antiracist parents about how many of their behaviors reinforce, rather than challenge, white supremacy.” We'll be adding more notable excerpts from the article to the comments throughout the day.

04/07/2019

"Every adoption is 'special needs.'

Every adoption, every foster child, every orphan, represents loss. Someone died, someone left, someone was impoverished, someone was arrested, someone was addicted, someone was diseased, and at the end of the broken is the child. Wrapped up in each situation is hurt, and all that accompanies that. This is the reason there is no adoption that is not a 'special needs' adoption; you just might not know on the front end what those special needs are."