01/01/2025
For many, New Year’s Day is a time to relax with family, to recover from the excesses of the previous evening, and/or, for the ambitious, to dismantle the holiday season’s decorations. But in the mid-19th century Baltimore of Mary Frick Garrett Jacobs’ youth, the first day of the year was reserved for New Year’s calling.
Part social mechanism for renewing acquaintances, part courting ritual, the custom of starting the year by receiving guests was first observed by the descendants of New York’s “Knickerbocker” Dutch settlers, but it was quickly adopted by other cities and towns. Starting at 10 o’clock in the morning, gentlemen would descend upon the homes of well-to-do society families, calling cards in hand. These “New Year’s callers” were greeted by the ladies of the household, who provided refreshments, polite conversation, and well-chaperoned flirtation. Visits were short, as the men sought to call on as many homes, and to leave as many cards, as possible.
Mary Frick, a popular young woman, was undoubtedly an enthusiastic participant. “The girls of that time regarded New Year’s as their own special property,” reminisced a Baltimore Sun writer in 1906. “It was the day of days to them, the social clearinghouse for the engagements of the coming weeks.” Young women would gather in the parlor of a chosen friend to share hostess duties and compliment each other on their party dresses. “They loved their New Year’s and their callers, and all was excitement. What mattered to them if the gas bill went up fearfully, and the rooms got hotter and hotter, and their pretty feet, encased in white kids, felt wearier and wearier? It was their day… and joy alone triumphed.”
Later, as the married Mrs. Robert Garrett, Mary Frick’s Mount Vernon Place mansion was one of the open-house sites gentlemen were sure to call on. She would have provided her guests with oysters, turkey salad sandwiches, grapes, and fruit cake, as well as eggnog and Madeira. As years passed, serving alcohol began to be frowned upon. “Dear readers of the gentler sex,” one etiquette book implored, “do not offer wine on this day of days. Consider the man who may call on 50 houses… can you think comfortably of your own brother, father, husband, or lover after he has passed through this round of debauchery?” Hostesses must have taken heed of this advice, as newspapers began to note a decrease in New Year’s Day drunkenness.
By the end of the 1880s, the practice of New Year’s calling had significantly waned. For one, the population had increased, making the circle of visitors less intimate. Society matrons were also less inclined to open their homes to all callers, including strangers, as tradition dictated. More and more, baskets were placed outside of homes for collecting cards, and New Year’s gatherings became private affairs.