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Genesis Women's Shelter & Support provides shelter, safety, counseling, and expert services to battered women and their children.

05/05/2021

The kiddos at our emergency shelter need your help to have a fun-filled summer! Whether you want to give one bottle of sunscreen or donate several pairs of flip flops, your gift will make a difference in the life of a child. Shop from the convenience of your couch to help prepare them for camp. Simply shop our Amazon Wish List and ship the items directly to us! Select "B Bravo's Gift Registry Address" as the shipping address to ensure your items are sent directly to our children’s program director. Thank you in advance for your support! https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/3CTGU8MD6TLGY?bblinkid=250914740&bbemailid=31185368&bbejrid=1957344070

Introducing our NEW 24/7 text support! Through this last year of a global pandemic, we have heard of women who are more ...
05/03/2021

Introducing our NEW 24/7 text support! Through this last year of a global pandemic, we have heard of women who are more isolated and cut off from the world due to being trapped in the house with their abuser and unable to call because he is always right there. We have also heard from hard-of-hearing and deaf women in our community looking for ways to gain support. And, we’re aware that a woman’s lack of financial resources to have phone service could impact her ability to reach out. Our hope is that the new 24-hour text line will address these areas of concerns and overcome barriers for women to get support. Learn more in our latest blog: https://www.genesisshelter.org/text-support/

Introducing our NEW 24/7 text support! Through this last year of a global pandemic, we have heard of women who are more isolated and cut off from the world due to being trapped in the house with their abuser and unable to call because he is always right there. We have also heard from hard-of-hearing and deaf women in our community looking for ways to gain support. And, we’re aware that a woman’s lack of financial resources to have phone service could impact her ability to reach out. Our hope is that the new 24-hour text line will address these areas of concerns and overcome barriers for women to get support. Learn more in our latest blog: https://www.genesisshelter.org/text-support/

“Every time you go to a restaurant, there's a woman there who is being abused by the guy she’s sitting at the table with...
05/03/2021
Dallas restaurants join coalition to help victims of domestic violence

“Every time you go to a restaurant, there's a woman there who is being abused by the guy she’s sitting at the table with." Read the article to learn how Dallas restaurants are helping these survivors of domestic violence, and thank you to The Dallas Morning News for helping us sound the alarm!

Signs will be posted in women’s restrooms, and staff will be trained on how to help safely.

LAST CALL to buy tickets for the Genesis Annual Luncheon featuring keynote speaker Octavia Spencer! Ticket sales close M...
04/30/2021

LAST CALL to buy tickets for the Genesis Annual Luncheon featuring keynote speaker Octavia Spencer! Ticket sales close Monday morning at 8:00, so purchase your tickets now by visiting www.genesisshelter.org/luncheon - we'll see you in one week!

LAST CALL to buy tickets for the Genesis Annual Luncheon featuring keynote speaker Octavia Spencer! Ticket sales close Monday morning at 8:00, so purchase your tickets now by visiting www.genesisshelter.org/luncheon - we'll see you in one week!

It's raffle time! Swipe through to see this year's incredible raffle packages, ranging from a $5,000 cash gift card to a...
04/28/2021

It's raffle time! Swipe through to see this year's incredible raffle packages, ranging from a $5,000 cash gift card to a wine-lover's trip to Napa Valley. But hurry - tickets are only on sale through May 7! Buy one ticket for $25 or five for $100 by visiting https://genesisshelter.rallyup.com/luncheon/Raffle

SNEAK PEEK: Check out this one-minute video from #GenesisAnnualLuncheon keynote speaker Octavia Spencer! Watch the video...
04/26/2021

SNEAK PEEK: Check out this one-minute video from #GenesisAnnualLuncheon keynote speaker Octavia Spencer! Watch the video now and then head over to www.genesisshelter.org/luncheon to purchase your tickets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxZUQiF_Hjw

SNEAK PEEK: Check out this one-minute video from #GenesisAnnualLuncheon keynote speaker Octavia Spencer! Watch the video now and then head over to www.genesisshelter.org/luncheon to purchase your tickets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxZUQiF_Hjw

Just like their beloved restaurants, our friends at Wingstop have been a constant source of delicious meals for women an...
04/23/2021

Just like their beloved restaurants, our friends at Wingstop have been a constant source of delicious meals for women and kiddos living at our emergency shelter. In the midst of the uncertainty of the past year, Wingstop stood ready to provide wings, warmth and joy for our clients. Wingstop was one of everyone’s favorite at our shelter, and it's no wonder why! Then when the winter storms hit Texas and wreaked havoc on our Safe Campus, Wingstop Charities donated $10,000 to help repair damages and ensure our clients could continue receiving life-saving services amidst yet another crisis. We are so grateful for our Wingstop family - during #VolunteerAppreciationWeek and always!

Just like their beloved restaurants, our friends at Wingstop have been a constant source of delicious meals for women and kiddos living at our emergency shelter. In the midst of the uncertainty of the past year, Wingstop stood ready to provide wings, warmth and joy for our clients. Wingstop was one of everyone’s favorite at our shelter, and it's no wonder why! Then when the winter storms hit Texas and wreaked havoc on our Safe Campus, Wingstop Charities donated $10,000 to help repair damages and ensure our clients could continue receiving life-saving services amidst yet another crisis. We are so grateful for our Wingstop family - during #VolunteerAppreciationWeek and always!

Every year on April 22, Earth Day marks the anniversary of the birth of the modern environmental movement in 1970. If yo...
04/22/2021
Benefit Store – Genesis Women's Shelter & Support

Every year on April 22, Earth Day marks the anniversary of the birth of the modern environmental movement in 1970. If you're looking for a way to do your part in taking care of our planet, shopping at or donating to thrift stores is a great (and fun!) way to reduce your environmental footprint. Our Thrift Store accepts gently-used men and women's clothing, household items, furniture and more. Visit our webpage to learn more!

THRIFT STORE IS NOW OPEN! If you're located in Dallas and have gently-used men's, women's or children's clothing, household items or furniture that you'd like to donate, we'll take it! Due to the damage caused to our transitional housing unit after Winter Storm Uri, our staff is spread thin, so we w...

Continuing on with #VolunteerAppreciationWeek, today we’re highlighting TOYOTA! Our new neighbors up the toll road have ...
04/21/2021

Continuing on with #VolunteerAppreciationWeek, today we’re highlighting TOYOTA! Our new neighbors up the toll road have made an incredible impact not only on our clients’ lives, but on the community as a whole. From recognizing local heroes in the wake of the winter storms to donating over $3,000 to cover critical supplies for our clients during the pandemic, Toyota continues to step up to the plate to provide for the North Texas community. Toyota took the partnership even further and put their stamp of approval on the fight to end domestic violence by becoming an official Genesis Corporate Hero after conducting a company-wide domestic violence training and hosting a much-needed gift card drive for our clients. If you’d like to host your own gift card drive with your company, friends or book club, learn more by clicking here:https://www.genesisshelter.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/Gift-Card-Donation-Drive-Digital-2.pdf

Continuing on with #VolunteerAppreciationWeek, today we’re highlighting TOYOTA! Our new neighbors up the toll road have made an incredible impact not only on our clients’ lives, but on the community as a whole. From recognizing local heroes in the wake of the winter storms to donating over $3,000 to cover critical supplies for our clients during the pandemic, Toyota continues to step up to the plate to provide for the North Texas community. Toyota took the partnership even further and put their stamp of approval on the fight to end domestic violence by becoming an official Genesis Corporate Hero after conducting a company-wide domestic violence training and hosting a much-needed gift card drive for our clients. If you’d like to host your own gift card drive with your company, friends or book club, learn more by clicking here:https://www.genesisshelter.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/Gift-Card-Donation-Drive-Digital-2.pdf

Beckett is a third-grader who, through his parents, has come to know and love Genesis. Since the beginning of the pandem...
04/20/2021

Beckett is a third-grader who, through his parents, has come to know and love Genesis. Since the beginning of the pandemic, Beckett has collected hundreds of new toys, books and art supplies to bring to Genesis children.

Beckett said, "My hope is that they have their own new belongings and ways to stay both busy and safe. I really wish for them to be as comfortable as possible and know that other kids care. No matter what has happened, the future will be better!"

Beckett recently collected coats, blankets, toys, books and arts & crafts supplies to help replace the countless items ruined during the winter storm in February. The kiddos at our shelter were absolutely thrilled to receive so many new items, and Beckett is just one example of how impactful a single donation can be. If you’d like to get involved and donate items to Genesis, visit www.genesisshelter.org/give-items to see a list of our current needs. #VolunteerAppreciationWeek

Beckett is a third-grader who, through his parents, has come to know and love Genesis. Since the beginning of the pandemic, Beckett has collected hundreds of new toys, books and art supplies to bring to Genesis children.

Beckett said, "My hope is that they have their own new belongings and ways to stay both busy and safe. I really wish for them to be as comfortable as possible and know that other kids care. No matter what has happened, the future will be better!"

Beckett recently collected coats, blankets, toys, books and arts & crafts supplies to help replace the countless items ruined during the winter storm in February. The kiddos at our shelter were absolutely thrilled to receive so many new items, and Beckett is just one example of how impactful a single donation can be. If you’d like to get involved and donate items to Genesis, visit www.genesisshelter.org/give-items to see a list of our current needs. #VolunteerAppreciationWeek

To kick off #VolunteerAppreciationWeek, we wanted to spotlight Jin-Ya Huang and Break Bread, Break Borders (BBBB). Jin-Y...
04/19/2021

To kick off #VolunteerAppreciationWeek, we wanted to spotlight Jin-Ya Huang and Break Bread, Break Borders (BBBB). Jin-Ya started BBBB to honor her mother and empower refugee women from war-torn countries with job opportunities. The women who cook with BBBB teach about diversity and share their personal stories while delivering and serving home-cooked meals. Jin-Ya’s mom instilled in her a servant’s heart, and our clients at our safe campus experienced this firsthand when BBBB covered a portion of the costs to serve a gourmet buffet with entrees, sides and even dessert – served warm and ready to eat. THANK YOU, Jin-Ya for your dedication to serving your neighbors! If you’d like to get involved and donate a meal to our emergency shelter, please contact Lottie Price at 214.389.7701.

To kick off #VolunteerAppreciationWeek, we wanted to spotlight Jin-Ya Huang and Break Bread, Break Borders (BBBB). Jin-Ya started BBBB to honor her mother and empower refugee women from war-torn countries with job opportunities. The women who cook with BBBB teach about diversity and share their personal stories while delivering and serving home-cooked meals. Jin-Ya’s mom instilled in her a servant’s heart, and our clients at our safe campus experienced this firsthand when BBBB covered a portion of the costs to serve a gourmet buffet with entrees, sides and even dessert – served warm and ready to eat. THANK YOU, Jin-Ya for your dedication to serving your neighbors! If you’d like to get involved and donate a meal to our emergency shelter, please contact Lottie Price at 214.389.7701.

Yesterday kicked off National #VolunteerAppreciationWeek, and couldn't start the celebration without recognizing YOU! St...
04/19/2021

Yesterday kicked off National #VolunteerAppreciationWeek, and couldn't start the celebration without recognizing YOU! Stay tuned throughout the week to see spotlights of some of our incredible volunteers, as well as ways that you can get involved and help us end domestic violence!

Yesterday kicked off National #VolunteerAppreciationWeek, and couldn't start the celebration without recognizing YOU! Stay tuned throughout the week to see spotlights of some of our incredible volunteers, as well as ways that you can get involved and help us end domestic violence!

Magistrate’s Orders for Emergency Protection (E.P.O.) are often the first opportunity for a survivor of Intimate Partner...
04/13/2021

Magistrate’s Orders for Emergency Protection (E.P.O.) are often the first opportunity for a survivor of Intimate Partner Violence to receive legally enforceable protection from their abuser. Learn the ins and outs of Emergency Protective Orders in our latest blog: https://www.genesisshelter.org/magistrates-order-for-emergency-protection/

Magistrate’s Orders for Emergency Protection (E.P.O.) are often the first opportunity for a survivor of Intimate Partner Violence to receive legally enforceable protection from their abuser. Learn the ins and outs of Emergency Protective Orders in our latest blog: https://www.genesisshelter.org/magistrates-order-for-emergency-protection/

Are you interested in winning an all-expense paid week-long trip to the sandy beaches of Florida? Or, maybe a trip to Na...
04/08/2021

Are you interested in winning an all-expense paid week-long trip to the sandy beaches of Florida? Or, maybe a trip to Napa Valley is more your style? Look no further - LUNCHEON RAFFLE PACKAGES ARE NOW ON SALE! Even if you're not attending the Genesis Annual Luncheon featuring keynote speaker Octavia Spencer!, you can still support our largest fundraiser of the year by purchasing raffle tickets. Buy one ticket for $25, or save by purchasing five tickets for $100. Raffle tickets can be purchased online through May 7: https://genesisshelter.rallyup.com/luncheon

Are you interested in winning an all-expense paid week-long trip to the sandy beaches of Florida? Or, maybe a trip to Napa Valley is more your style? Look no further - LUNCHEON RAFFLE PACKAGES ARE NOW ON SALE! Even if you're not attending the Genesis Annual Luncheon featuring keynote speaker Octavia Spencer!, you can still support our largest fundraiser of the year by purchasing raffle tickets. Buy one ticket for $25, or save by purchasing five tickets for $100. Raffle tickets can be purchased online through May 7: https://genesisshelter.rallyup.com/luncheon

Most people reading murder/suicide stories in the news believe that the perpetrator “snapped” or had a previous mental h...
04/05/2021

Most people reading murder/suicide stories in the news believe that the perpetrator “snapped” or had a previous mental health condition that caused the tragedy. Those beliefs are often inaccurate and misinformed: the only “problem” that the offender had is that he was abusive and violent. Read more in our latest blog, "Did he snap, or was it planned?" https://www.genesisshelter.org/did-he-snap-or-was-it-planned/

Most people reading murder/suicide stories in the news believe that the perpetrator “snapped” or had a previous mental health condition that caused the tragedy. Those beliefs are often inaccurate and misinformed: the only “problem” that the offender had is that he was abusive and violent. Read more in our latest blog, "Did he snap, or was it planned?" https://www.genesisshelter.org/did-he-snap-or-was-it-planned/

Here at Genesis, we work alongside survivors of domestic violence to help them find safety, support and healing from abu...
04/01/2021

Here at Genesis, we work alongside survivors of domestic violence to help them find safety, support and healing from abuse. Additionally, we frequently receive phone calls from community members asking for guidance on how they can help their loved one who is in an abusive relationship. We know that watching a loved one experience domestic violence can be an emotional and difficult journey, and are proud to introduce our new virtual group to learn how to best support a friend or family member who is experiencing abuse. Read more in our latest blog: https://www.genesisshelter.org/introducing-our-new-friends-and-family-group/

Here at Genesis, we work alongside survivors of domestic violence to help them find safety, support and healing from abuse. Additionally, we frequently receive phone calls from community members asking for guidance on how they can help their loved one who is in an abusive relationship. We know that watching a loved one experience domestic violence can be an emotional and difficult journey, and are proud to introduce our new virtual group to learn how to best support a friend or family member who is experiencing abuse. Read more in our latest blog: https://www.genesisshelter.org/introducing-our-new-friends-and-family-group/

We've created a survey to ensure that the services we offer are easily accessible to everyone and relevant to all curren...
03/31/2021

We've created a survey to ensure that the services we offer are easily accessible to everyone and relevant to all current needs of survivors. The information shared on this survey is anonymous, and will only be shared internally in order to improve our services. Regardless of if you have experienced domestic violence or not, we invite you to participate. We thank you in advance for your input! https://ccaw.typeform.com/to/TXPoZY07

We've created a survey to ensure that the services we offer are easily accessible to everyone and relevant to all current needs of survivors. The information shared on this survey is anonymous, and will only be shared internally in order to improve our services. Regardless of if you have experienced domestic violence or not, we invite you to participate. We thank you in advance for your input! https://ccaw.typeform.com/to/TXPoZY07

Octavia Spencer has been a champion of shining a light on gender and race inequality, and her acting career brilliantly ...
03/30/2021

Octavia Spencer has been a champion of shining a light on gender and race inequality, and her acting career brilliantly demonstrates women who – against all odds – find the courage to overcome personal and societal roadblocks. Out of all her performances, what’s your favorite? Comment below, and don’t forget to purchase your ticket to hear from her on May 7! www.genesisshelter.org/luncheon

Octavia Spencer has been a champion of shining a light on gender and race inequality, and her acting career brilliantly demonstrates women who – against all odds – find the courage to overcome personal and societal roadblocks. Out of all her performances, what’s your favorite? Comment below, and don’t forget to purchase your ticket to hear from her on May 7! www.genesisshelter.org/luncheon

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Hello can I get approved for a room please I have a little girl
How can we donate food to the center’s food pantry?
What donations are needed for the women and children in the shelter besides food and gift cards? Do the kids need toys, stockings, etc? How can we donate items to the families directly instead of taking items to the thrift store? Thank you! Looking for ways to help!
Hello, I have a ton of baby items to get rid of: baby carrier, boppy, baby bath, play mat, swaddles, some maternity clothes, 2 breast pumps, and some nursing clothes and baby girl clothes primarily 3-9 month. Would this be something helpful for y’all as a donation?
What homeless shelter? Can I go to her in Dallas? That accepts pets. And. Will both be welcome there? Where I know there safe? Why go out and get a job and get on my feet?
My Final Contribution in Support of October 2020 Domestic Violence Awareness Someone in the LGBT community that finds themselves on the battered end of a violent relationship has the initial challenge of identifying as a victim. There is little to be found in common with a heterosexual woman also undergoing spousal abuse, at first glance. That someone may dismiss the conflicts as arguments that got out of hand and perhaps even partially deserved. The anger in those moments is not unshared. Often in that mindset, a belief is held that there is a solution in reach which will somehow relieve the tension. Hope fades. The violence escalates. The control tightens. Suddenly, that person is trapped and completely isolated. The opportunity to flee was missed. It becomes too late. A numbness descends into every limb. As if on pilot, the body freezes in an effort to hide. Over and over, it’s affirmed that one’s life can end in the rage of the person most trusted. Fear fills every vein nothing more. The body remains on alert in both sleep and wakefulness. In both instances, that person, gay or straight, is more the keeper of the watch then the victim. Those murdered were unable to hold back the fury though not for a lack of effort. Their entire existence was concentrated on defense. Rage won as is always its intent. The perpetrators’ arguments of passion may therefore have some traction. What’s left unsaid, is that in the unbridled passion the intent of murder is spawned and demands release. The perpetrators’ motives and character traits are wildly known by most of society today. The victims that manage to find help and often escape learn to identify the behaviors that fueled their abusers’ rage. They begin to understand the control struggle waged against them. If you are someone that has suffered in family violence, have you been able to grasp what attributes in yourself made you a target for this violence? I have seen little information that helps someone understand what that life they encountered really meant to them personally. I am a survivor of that violence. I appreciated the knowledge I acquired about that situation. It’s been a very long time since I was involved. I had the good fortune to acquire the help I needed. Being a gay man experiencing partner violence made it extremely difficult to find healing. Shelters were not willing to assist me in my struggle. Counseling was a tremendous value in reclaiming my dignity. At the time of my recovery there was little in that field that spoke to the control struggle which is the heart of that violence. I could not heal until I understood it. I wanted to be whole again. I searched and found good answers. I found other gay men that began the narrative in their pioneering efforts around it. I learned that my pain would also become a doorway for others to recover because there was so little attention paid to its impact in our community. The part remaining for me, was learning what drew me into that kind if a situation initially. Just as I had to search for my initial understanding of how partner violence played a role in my life as a gay man, I had to learn about those components within myself that allowed for this, on my own, once more. Only this time I had the prior knowledge gained around the issue, as well as, the therapy that provided some lasting degree of insight into myself. I don’t really have any documentation that supports my beliefs; but, the sheer effort on my part to get to those answers I feel qualifies some of these assertions. If they help others to find some clarification in their journey back to themselves I’m glad. I struggled with the question of why I had stayed. I think that the heart of that question is “what else does a person in that situation still have to hold onto?” NOTHING beyond the chaotic and dangerous life offered by the perpetrator who has systematically gotten rid of anything that is outside his/her realm of control. An existence that demands 25/7 (that’s not a typo). Victims believe they have failed before they even start each day. They are always behind in the tasks that in time they learn to place on themselves to prove their own incapability. I believe my partner would have been excellent in the career pursuit of a horse trainer. In time, I was utterly broken. Leave? Go where when you cannot even muster the wherewithal for the life foisted on you? Was it emotional control? It was; but, on the ground, it doesn’t feel that way. One doesn’t feel anyway at all. When your scared out of your wits all emotion fades. It’s an auto-defense that kicks in for protection. It’s actually more like demon possession. Here’s The Real Kicker The idea that victims are weaklings void of self-confidence is a myth. An abuser’s taste for violence matures and becomes refined over time. Victims are chosen for their strong spirits, independence and reliance. We are an acquired taste. All the better to break. That is the thrill a perpetrator seeks- complete control over a person that eventually folds on a life that held great meaning and value. The men and women trapped in violence have a strength that surpasses the norm. Regardless if they survive or perish they are heroes not victims.
Thank you, Genesis, for all you due to help women and children from experiencing what my friend Savannah did. People Magazine and other international publishers have been very vocal about this tragedy. It is so amazing that Savannah's horrific death may lead to many escaping domestic abuse as she is used for awareness. Please share the story if you feel led.. we never know who is secretly suffering
OCTOBER 2020 Family Violence Awareness Month . I wrote this tribute a couple of years back to primarily share with my extended family which at this juncture includes only my siblings, cousins, their children and a well-loved aunt by marriage who is the lone survivor of the generation that raised all of us. I also wanted to provide a window into the time In our history when women had absolutely no help or protection against their violent spouses. A woman from a wealthy family stood a better chance of survival . The savvy perpetrator found other outlets for his rage in order to continue whatever level of control he held with her finances. The emotional toll was the same in most cases as it was for my aunt born into a poor immigrant family who like most women in that era was beaten with impunity. Honoring the life of Genevieve Havlak Phillips I am addressing you today to talk about the history of domestic violence in the Havlak family, This is our family, for you are my siblings and cousins and your children, as well. Those children were not yet born. Many of you, also were too young and too sheltered to know about this part of our story, Genevieve Havlak Phillips was our aunt. We knew of her as Aunt Jenny. None of us ever met her. She was never present at any family gatherings I attended as a child. She was the elephant in the room that no one spoke about. Her absence, however, was always felt. Her siblings, our parents, were in constant high alert anticipating her return. A return that would not happen until a very sad day in the far, far future. My interpretation of our Aunt Jenny is flawed and sketchy . Older cousins , Mary Ann and Lillian were adults at the time of her death and may have more accurate details. I draw on my source as a son of one of her sisters that perpetually agonized over her disappearance . I was raised by these women. In hushed whispers I witnessed how they were affected by their loss of her as the years progressed. Genevieve married a man from their hometown by the last name of Phillips. He apparently was violent with her from the beginning. Aunt Toni and Aunt Agnes were teenagers at the time, still living at home in Rowena, Texas. Toni talked to me about how the two of them would call him out as a coward for his treatment of their now married sister when they ran into him at the drugstore soda counter. In time, they had four children. Bernard, Eugene and Jimmy were their sons. Their only daughter was named Mary Lee. Phillips moved them around a lot, in time, isolating Aunt Jenny further from her family. She would upon occasion call on them for support. In time, four of the sisters migrated to Dallas. By that time, Aunt Jenny was unable to support her children. She sent them to live in an orphanage in Dallas. Her sisters worked as domestics in Highland Oark homes so they themselves had no means to House them so instead they over saw their care and provided some financial assistance. In time she snd her husband must have had s change in fortune. She took the children out of the orphanage . The boys , Iwent to live with Uncle Emil and Aunt Emma in Rowena where they finished high school. She took her daughter with her and again disappeared. This was around the late 1940’s. There was some communication that Phillips had been killed in an industrial accident. Little else. The years past. A victim of domestic violence often falls away from the family of origin. The habitual pattern of returning to the abuser is shameful and painful. The victims want to spare their families while also protecting the perpetrator. Our Grandmother had a huge hole burned into her heart. Her relations with all of her daughters , I believe , were complicated. She knew from the beginning that the marriage of Genevieve was flawed. She became silent when that child could no longer be reached and was torn from her. I only knew our grandmother from our brief visits. She spoke very little English. I spoke even less Czech. Whatever affection she had towards her grandchildren was shown to our older cousins that were versed in her language. It seemed that the woman carried much grief. Somewhere in the early sixties, after a very long stretch of time the family received a phone call informing them of Aunt Jenny’s whereabouts along with the message that she was dying, The family rushed to her. She was found in lying in a charity bed of a hospital in Monahans , Texas . In that period, Monahans was a bleak far West Texas wildcatter oil town. She had by then remarried. That current spouse was even more violent than Phillips. Mary Lee, the daughter was born severely challenged intellectually. She had been loved by her mother who sought to protect her and keep her close with her when she could. The girl matured physically. She was said to be a young beauty. Those attributes if that innocent child caught the attention of the newest abusive spouse. He r***d her and in time considered her an adjacent wife to the mother. Mary Lee gave birth to two of his children, All of us who were still children were spared from that information. Genevieve’s brothers confided their anger and frustration to their wives. The sisters were devastated and found support among themselves. Their sister was beaten every day of her married life. Knowing and expecting only violence she drifted into an even more severe relationship. She ultimately sacrificed her own daughter . An aggressive cancer ended Genevieve’s tormented life. She was able to say goodbye to her all of her siblings. More important, her mother found closure in the loss she had been carrying so many years. Our grandmother died s year later with that peace. Mary Lee remained with her ra**st raising his children after her mother’s death. The cycle of violence extended to another generation. The violence in a short time required her to be commuted to a mental hospital In time the madness the the poor conditionne forced upon her in that institution ended the humiliation forced upon her. She is lost to us. One of the brothers took her children raising them as his own. All of the brothers went on to have families. They have had occasional contact with the oldest remaining cousins over the years. Most of us never knew them. Genevieve’s siblings, our parents, afterwards mentioned her on rare occasions with the deepest of sadness. They kept her memory alive. Theynever stopped loving her. I gathered from their stories that she was intelligent, She was funny and independent. Any vestige of that was beaten out of her. Her brothers and sisters were powerless to intervene. In that place, in that time marriage was sanctified. There were no services to help women like her. There were no court services to assist her family to get her out of her hell. She died so many times in front of them . I am very sorry they had to endure this. I am sorry that her and her children were tortured and humiliated. In this month of awareness I want to remember our aunt. I also want to grieve for this family member and her children that were stolen from the Havlak clan. Keep her memory. She deserves all of our awareness. When I work with battered women, I think of Aunt Jenny and all of the thousands of women that were brutalized and had no way out. I weep, I do. But, the strength they had gives me courage to continue . UPDATE Since I ran this article I have been put in contact with three of her grandchildren. All of sons carved out good lives for themselves, They each married decent women who they respected and treated well, The grandchildren all established comfortable lives for themselves. Two I have met become quite fond of. The other I am building a friendship. I’ve helped them to become familiar with a large family that is thrilled to have them back where they always have belonged.