Major County Victim Services

10/05/2024

"Your partner is supposed to be your safe space, not another battle in life,
A haven where love and trust entwine, freeing you from strife.

A place to breathe, to be, to let your guard down, and unwind,
Where acceptance and compassion envelop you, leaving fears and doubts behind.

Your partner should be a refuge, a shelter from life's raging storms,
A gentle breeze that soothes your soul, and calms your deepest forms.

Not a source of tension, stress, or anxiety, but a calming presence true,
A partner in every sense, who stands beside you, through all life's hues.

A relationship built on trust, respect, and open communication's might,
Where vulnerability is cherished, and love shines like a guiding light.

In this sacred space, you find solace, comfort, and peaceful nest,
A union that uplifts and strengthens, banishing life's darkness and unrest.

Your partner's love should be a balm, healing life's wounds and scars,
A gentle reminder of your worth, and the beauty that you are.

A safe space to grow, to learn, to explore, and be yourself completely,
With a partner who supports your dreams, and loves you unconditionally.

Together, you create a sanctuary, where love's pure flame burns bright,
A bond that strengthens, nurtures, and guides you through life's plights."

10/03/2024

***UPDATE ***
She has been found. . .

Chloe Savanna Grider
Missing Enid Teenager Considered Endangered
5’8” Light Brown hair, Blue Eyes, weight is around 120lbs.

"On the morning of 27 September 2024, we awoke to find our 17 year old daughter, Chloe Grider, missing in the house with the back door unlocked.

We’ve had many text messages stating that she had went on a spur of the moment whim to a concert located downtown Oklahoma City. That she would return home yet, Chloe never did return home after the concert. We can not verify that she even attended the concert at this time without video confirmation of entering the Paycom Center or if she did in fact even leave the Enid Oklahoma area. There has been one person of interest to us, even without law enforcement confirming their interests in him. We have reached out to Consumer Cellular and are working towards obtaining records of the last known location the phone was used as well as the last texts & calls. Enid police have refused to ping the phone saying she doesn’t match the criteria for them to do so & told us we have to obtain that information.

We are asking the State of Oklahoma & the local community of Enid and surrounding for help to locate our amazing fun loving daughter.

She has never ran away in her life, she has never been away from home ever more then an over night with friends.

She is now entered into the national database as of today.
Please help us find her."

09/22/2024

09/21/2024

When young children feel anxious they cannot always understand or express what they are feeling. Here are some signs to look out for.

Source: WholeHearted School Counseling

09/19/2024

09/14/2024

There is no use crying over spilled milk, but would that be your child's first thought?

Your words matter, especially in times of stress; let your words and actions constantly reassure your children that they can come to YOU when/if they make a mistake.

09/14/2024

Common misconception exists around terms related to narcissism. We need to understand the difference between a diagnosis of the cluster b personality disorder narcissistic personality disorder (npd) and narcissistic abuse. NPD is a diagnosis defined and diagnosed clinically. Narcissism exists on a spectrum, every human has narcissistic traits to some extent. Narcissistic Abuse is a pattern of behaviour cycles: Idealization, often termed love bombing, where they create a sense of instant connection with you. Making you feel unique and wonderful, put on a pedestal. No matter what type of relationship —romantic, friendly, professional, or otherwise—it moves fast and has a fervent quality to it
Devaluation starts slowly, passive-aggressiveness,
backhanded compliments, excuses for poor behavior, subtle criticism, stonewalling, mind games that seem harmless, name-calling, no win-situations, lack of empathy and validation, comparisons to others, ridicule and humiliation. Accuse you of things you didn't do and keep pressuring you until you wonder whether you actually did it. This is known as gaslighting. You’ll start to question your memory and your sanity
Cycling between these stages is often termed hoovering.. They will suddenly behave extremely nicely toward you, shower you with compliments, and make you feel valued again. However, as soon as you start to feel secure in the relationship, they will start to devalue once more
Discard can occur swiftly and abruptly when iniated by the abuser. If the abused initiates discard the abuser will attempt idealization, if that fails they begin a smear campaign to discredit the abused and create the false narrative they are the victim
These patterns of behaviour are abuse, there are no excuses for abuse. We need to stop making and accepting excuses for these behaviours, it is abuse. We need to speak out, not accept or excuse it
We need to support those abused to seek and secure physical and emotional safety. Survivors of this incidious abuse view themselves as the problem, are filled with fear, shame, guilt, humiliation and excuses for the abuser
Current laws are insufficient to hold these abusers accountable for abuse. Introducing coercive control laws are necessary. Do not assume a lack of charges means innocence. Do not assume after hearing a victim story, where they did all they could but just couldn't get past the other persons behaviours, labelling the other party crazy, controlling, vindictive, judgemental that you are supporting an abuse survivor...you are most likely supporting the abuser and thus abusing by proxy the true abuse survivor. Be aware that a narcissistic abuser will always share stories of themself as victim or hero, never wrong, never the villain. Everything is somebody elses fault, there is always an excuse, blame is never with them. They lack empathy, responsibility and accountability. They lie, cheat, manipulate and blame shift. They often do speak of the hideous behaviours, falsely accussing those whom they targeted with the abuse of perpetrating it. The abuser will move on swiftly, raging, ridiculing and belittling the abused. The abused will indeed likely appear unstable, inconsistent, isolated or standoffish
It is time to recognise signs of abuse. Time to report flags seen, heard or suspected, whilst including reporting the situation for the person(s) abused as often they may not see a way out
Discuss the behaviours of concern not the person as the problem, to reduce defensiveness , but still be prepared for excuses and taking responsibility by the person abused. Never expect accountability or responsibility from the abuser, they are incapable
It is time for change to laws, time to hold these destructive abusers accountable
It's time to start providing significantly more support to those who survive this abuse as the damage is physical, mental, emotional and takes significant time and support to truly heal from
It's time to stop normalising abuse behaviours . Time to stop making and accepting excuses
It's time to come together, because together, we can and will change the story of abuse ✨️💜

09/12/2024

You do not need to be alone in your struggle.

09/12/2024

Get your raffle tickets!!

09/09/2024

If you live with your partner and begin to notice the red flags or fear for your safety, it is a good idea to prepare a "go bag" that is ready and waiting in case you are led to leave immediately.

As important as it is to keep a "go bag" at the ready. it is equally important to make sure your go bag is tucked away in a secure location.

Source: thehotline.org