08/26/2026
Let’s have the uncomfortable discussion.
Do you have your affairs in order? Does your family know your final wishes? Do they know where all of your documents are located? Have you explained what all of those documents mean? Do they know who to talk to in the event that you should pass away?
More often than not, the family has no idea what to do when you are gone, other than what you yelled to everyone over Thanksgiving after having a few too many adult beverages. While most Veterans play their cards close to the chest, that does nothing to help execute your final wishes.
Giving your family members a road map for what you want is the best plan you can have. Because they might not be Veterans themselves, and have no idea what a DD 214 is, what a VSO is/does, or where to find your medical records in the event that you passed away from a possible Service Connected Disability.
Even if you never had a Compensation Claim for the condition that caused your death (or was a contributing factor) a VSO (or other claims representative) can prove Service Connection after you are gone. But, evidence is key. Having your Service Records that show duty assignments (with dates and locations), or Service Treatment Records (showing what you were seen at sick call, hospital or community care office, and when) are key elements to prove that you did, in fact, pass away from a condition that was caused by your service. That could mean the difference in the VA deciding if your Spouse is entitled to a Dependent Indemnity Claim, or any other benefits they might be entitled to.
Don’t wait to plan. Have that conversation with your family members or advocates so they know what to do.
If you don’t have your records, you can request your records by mailing a Form SF-180 to the National Archives, along with any evidence you want to add.
The suggested items to talk about (in the graphic), are just that. Suggestions. Some may not be listed that apply to you, and some listed may not apply to you. Do your homework. Go over everything. Check those boxes and get everyone on the same page.
Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any question about this topic, or any other Veterans Service related topics at [email protected].
