Reclaim Therapy

05/21/2026

Shame and childhood emotional neglect are deeply connected, and it does not get talked about enough.
When a child's emotional world is consistently unmet, they do not have the developmental capacity to understand that their caregiver has limited emotional range. They understand it as something being wrong with them. Too needy. Too sensitive. Too much.
That belief goes underground and shapes everything. How you move through relationships. How you talk to yourself. How quickly you abandon your own needs the moment someone else seems uncomfortable.
It is not who you are. It is what you learned in an environment that did not have room for your full self.
The new post on childhood emotional neglect and emotional loneliness is on the blog now. Link in bio.

05/19/2026

Emotional loneliness is one of the hardest things to explain because it does not have an obvious cause you can point to.
You were not locked in a room. You were not visibly neglected. People around you would probably say your childhood was fine.
But there was something missing. A parent who asked how you were doing but did not really want to know. A home where feelings were treated as inconvenient, or just never talked about at all.
And you learned, earlier than you should have, that your inner world was something you carried on your own.
That is emotional loneliness. And it does not resolve itself just because you grow up and build a different life.
The full post is on the blog now. Link in bio.

05/18/2026

There is a kind of loneliness that does not make sense on paper.
You have people in your life. You have relationships that are, by most measures, fine. And yet there is this persistent ache that you cannot quite explain, a feeling of not being truly known by the people around you.
That is emotional loneliness. And for a lot of adults, it did not start in their current relationships. It started much earlier, in a home where someone was physically present but emotionally somewhere else. Where feelings were too much, too inconvenient, or simply never acknowledged.
Childhood emotional neglect does not always look like neglect from the outside. It often looks like a normal childhood. But the absence of emotional attunement leaves a mark that follows people into adulthood in ways that are genuinely hard to trace back to the source.
The new post on the blog walks through what emotional loneliness actually is, how childhood emotional neglect creates it, and what healing can look like. If any part of this resonates, it might be worth a read.
https://f.mtr.cool/mxdalqplwj

05/14/2026

If you’ve ever thought, “why am I still thinking about this?” you’re not the only one.

For a lot of people, it’s not about being stuck in the past.

It’s about something in the experience not fully settling.

And your system keeps going back, not to punish you, but to try to make sense of it.

That can look like replaying moments, questioning what happened, or feeling pulled back into it when you don’t expect it.

It’s not always something you can think your way out of.

It often needs a different kind of support. One that includes your body, your nervous system, and the pace you can actually tolerate.

We go deeper into this in the blog.

Link in bio to read.

05/12/2026

It’s not always obvious. It doesn’t always look intense from the outside.

Sometimes it looks like your mind going back to it… again and again.

Replaying moments. Filling in gaps. Trying to understand something that didn’t quite land.

And it can feel confusing, especially if you’re telling yourself it “wasn’t that bad” or that you should be able to move on.

But your nervous system isn’t measuring how it looked. It’s tracking how it felt.

And if something felt overwhelming, out of control, or unsupported, it can take time to process.

We go deeper into this in the blog.

Link in bio to read.

05/11/2026

Birth trauma doesn’t always look how people expect it to.

Sometimes it looks like not being able to stop thinking about your birth experience.

You thought once it was over, you’d be able to move on.
But your mind keeps going back.

The moments you didn’t expect.
The parts that felt out of control.
What was said. What wasn’t said.
What you wish had gone differently.

And it’s not just remembering.

It’s replaying it. Questioning it. Trying to make sense of something that still doesn’t fully land in your body.

A lot of people don’t realize this can be birth trauma.

Because maybe everyone is telling you that you and the baby are healthy.
Maybe it didn’t look “traumatic” from the outside.
Maybe you’re telling yourself you should just be grateful.

But your nervous system doesn’t go off appearances. It goes off experience.

And if something felt overwhelming, unsafe, or out of your control, your system can keep trying to process it long after the moment has passed.

That doesn’t mean you’re stuck.
It means something hasn’t fully settled yet.

We wrote more about why this happens and what can actually help your system start to process it in the blog.

👉 Read it here: https://f.mtr.cool/tpinmbgiwc

If this resonates, you’re not overreacting. And you’re not alone in it.

If you keep replaying your birth even when "everything is fine," your nervous system isn't done with it. Birth trauma therapy with EMDR and somatic care in PA

05/07/2026

When people hear EMDR, they often picture going straight into trauma memories.

But when dissociation is part of your experience, it usually needs a different starting point.

Your system might not feel safe enough to stay present with that level of intensity yet.

So the work often begins with building capacity.

Learning how to notice when you’re disconnecting.
Practicing how to come back in ways that don’t overwhelm you.
Letting some distance exist until it feels safer to move closer.

That’s not doing it wrong. That’s what makes the process possible.

We go deeper into this in this week's blog.

Link in bio to read.

05/06/2026

Meet Sarah 🧡

Sarah is the founder of Reclaim Therapy and a trauma, somatic, and EMDR therapist specializing in complex trauma and eating disorders.

Her work focuses on helping people understand the deeper patterns that come from emotional neglect, trauma, and long-term survival strategies, especially when things look “fine” on the outside but feel very different on the inside.

A lot of the people Sarah works with have already done therapy before.

They have insight. They understand their story.

But they still feel stuck in their nervous system, their relationships, or their relationship with their body.

This is the work Sarah is passionate about. Helping people move beyond just understanding their experiences and into actually feeling different.

If that resonates, you’re not alone.

And you don’t have to figure it out by yourself.

Learn more about working with Sarah and the Reclaim Therapy team through the link in our bio.

05/05/2026

A lot of people think if you can talk about your trauma, you’ve processed it.

But dissociation complicates that.

You can have a clear narrative and still feel completely disconnected from it. Or find yourself overwhelmed the second you get close to it.

Both can make sense.

Dissociation is your system creating distance so you don’t have to feel everything all at once.

Which is also why certain approaches can feel like they don’t quite land.

Not because you’re doing it wrong, but because your system is protecting you in a very specific way.

We wrote more about this and how EMDR can be adapted for dissociation in the blog.

Link in bio to read.

12/17/2025

New on the blog!
30 Overlooked Traumatic Childhood Experiences (and how they shape us as adults)

I put all 30 days from my TikTok series into a blog for you to skim through. Head to IG or TikTok to watch the full series with a lot more context!

Many people don’t realize these experiences count as trauma. A therapist explains 30 overlooked childhood trauma experiences and their long term impact.