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Here are the 2022 Parental Alienation Awareness Day proclamations from…
Rockwall Texas
Forney Texas
Heath Texas
Seagoville Texas
Kaufman Texas
Royse City
So thankful for this important annual tradition that started 17 years ago and the 200 Texas mayors who have proclaimed Parental Alienation Awareness Day over the years!
Ready to present at the Children 4 Tomorrow Symposium! Hope you’ll join us for this excellent annual symposium!
BREAKING THE SILENCE OF PARENTAL ALIENATION THROUGH SOCIAL MEDIA
Child custody has two components. There's physical custody, which most commonly refers to parenting time and then there
is legal custody, which refers to a parents decision making authority. I'll tell you something about legal custody that might interest you, especially if you are in litigation. Since I provide a lawyer with litigation support in parental alienation cases, I will share something with you that you will enjoy talking advantage
of, and it's a good tip.
When lawyers and judges talk about legal custody they refer mainly to a parents right to have access to medical and educational records; to be able to have a voice in making the major decisions that effect a child's life. How else can you as
a parent carry out your parental responsibilities if you don't obtain full access to information in which to make decisions ?
For judges joint legal custody is the default decision. Even if you're a parent that has a non-custodial parenting time plan, judges want you to communicate with your former partner,
and then make joint decisions ( although in PA cases you are foolish to expect that to be the norm ). Still, knowing what is happening in the life of your child is very important, even if it doesn't work for you like it does for other parents who know
how to effectively co-parent.
We all know that kids today live on their phone and social
media platforms, whether those platforms are Facebook, or
Twitter, Snap Chat, Tick Toc, etc, if your kid isn't buried in a
video game they are probably on social media. Most of the
time, the parent that is being rejected by the child is also be-
ing blocked to all their platforms. So you need to ask judges
to give you unrestricted access to all the child's social media accounts. A non-blocking court order. There's simply no justification for a child's privacy on social media. If you're allowing that to happen you need to change that. If you never thought about this before, think about it now.
I am not suggesting that you post on their accounts, but
being able to monitor what they say, who they talk to, and
about what could yield valuable options to assist them. It's
going to p**s them off, but ground rules can be set, you're
still able to set boundaries that show them you might be in listening mode, but not in an interference mode. Being a
parent that can use social media to communicate with the
child either through a private message or private phone
call breaks down obstacles in your way, and if you find the
right expert in parental alienation to tell you what to say or
not say to your child could start a revolution in changes, a
revolution the other parent will not be able to interfere with.
If you like my suggestion, talk it over with your lawyer, you
won't be able to get this done any other way. But it will be
worth it, most judges will be stubborn about making any
changes to modify physical custody, but when it comes to
legal custody issues, I find most of them are softies, and I
know that when they hear a good argument, you win big !
Check out my website, share this post with your friends or with other members in your Facebook group. My website is :
www.ParentalAlienaton.ca
ARE YOU TRYING TO HELP SOMEONE WITH PARENTAL ALIENATION PROBLEMS, BUT YOU DON'T KNOW HOW
OR WHAT TO DO ?
I am tired of trying to get through to targeted parents that are gridlocked in poor decisions, based on suggestions from their attorney's, friends, and family. I am tired of explaining to them that they are pursuing bad legal strategies, and treatments for parental alienation that will not work.
I am tired of arguing with targeted parents who are burnt out, broke from the litigation, fixated in motivations to change the legal system, the political system or to bring more awareness, and education for others that encounter alienation. I am tired,
so many targeted parents are being taken advantage of by an abundance of professionals in the legal and mental health industry.
I am sick and tied of not being able to help targeted parents- because one or more lawyers drained them of all their assets before they had ever talked to me to get the help that they're needing today. I'm frustrated and angry in fact, they so many targeted parents are hanging on to their lives with vapors for energy. I'm disgusted, and angry that so many mental health professionals are claiming to be experts in reunification, and parental alienation when they are neither.
I am sad that many targeted parents do not truly see what is happening to the loved ones that care about them/living with them/shouldering and scaffolding them/giving up their asset resources to pitch in to pay off these insensitive and harmful legal and mental health professionals working on their cases.
I am angry that the new spouses/new partners that stand by their sides, have to spend their days and nights in a painful incubator never knowing when the nightmare they share will
ever end because they're trying to be endlessly and infinitely
supportive.
Do these targeted parents lack the insight or take advantage.
I suppose there is room to make an argument that it depends. The question I have for a targeted parent is: How many more people in your life are you ready to risk losing ? You can't, nor should you expect, someone to stick by you, if all you ever do ends up with you losing in court and losing or all your money.
So this post is not for any of you targeted parents out there, I want to talk to the ones that for some godforsaken reason do love you and put up with you and all that you and they are now going through. This is my message to you:
Take control of a bad situation by asserting yourself, over the control your spouse or partner has in making decisions which definitely impact your life. Take charge, by looking into what I have to say in more detail, look beyond this post, for the truth about resolving parental alienation dynamics. There are a few simple ways you can do that, here are some suggestions easy anyone can follow:
1. Listen to some of my podcasts. You can find them on my website and here is a link to where you can listen to them :
https://www.parentalalienation.ca/radio-media-archive/
2. Ask for a Free Consultation.
3. Keep in mind that regardless of any course or direction you now might be pursing, there is still time to change the course. That is important to understand. You CAN stop and move in a different direction. In fact, it is the only way you can get a real positive outcome in your life. Get off the TITANIC mistakes so you don't go down with the ship.
Let me put it bluntly, a targeted parent is a compromised and severely damaged individual, that is far from the best version you'd like them to be. Their decision making is very poor, and that's not entirely their fault, but they are vulnerable victims I believe most of them will defend their cognitive abilities, their skills, and intelligent processes they have no objection to any debate that they are highly functional. That does not mean in their case they don't have substantial weaknesses and you're perhaps the one person in their life to let that all slide by. I'm saying - stop doing that. You have to re-direct what happens. The future you have with them, and for yourself is not in their hands, it's in your hands.
Many couples facing parental alienation problems act is if, or openly tell each other that they make the decisions jointly. If you'd like to go on telling yourself lies, half truths/call it blind loyalty, that's no longer okay to do that.
It's also not fair to children in a blended family to have all the drama they have to go through, the sacrifices they have also have to make to be stuck in the middle of poor decisions that effect their future. It takes a lot of chutzpah to expect that; targeted parents claiming to be dealing with alienation owe a great deal of flexibility to you, whether you are a new spouse, maybe a new partner, a family member putting up financial support to their cause - stop doing that/start asking are their better alternatives we could be looking into ?
If you're worried about the retainer you already paid to some lawyer - don't worry about that, there's an easy way out.
Maybe you're worried about some court order that you think absolutely must be followed so lets just stay the course, you might be able to vacate that court order, or get it modified.
You may have already entered into therapy with your child. It doesn't mean you can't change to a different therapist or get
a different type of therapeutic intervention. You might have a guardian ad litem involved in your case/or a lawyer for a child. You may have a parenting coordinator involved - so what, the truth is that can all be changed for a smarter alternative. Also expenses would be less as well. I assume money does matter.
You've got to take charge or you will eventually be led over a severely damaging emotional and financial cliff.
It’s always an honor to participate in a Children 4 Tomorrow event!
