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09/01/2026

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07/29/2026

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Episode 7: CPS Says You “Lack Insight.” Here’s What They Really Mean.

What does CPS actually mean when they say you “lack insight” or “lack accountability”? These aren’t just opinions—they’re evaluation terms that can dramatically impact your case.

In Episode 7, we break down the language CPS uses, explain what they’re really scoring, and show parents how to understand the scorecard that’s often being used behind the scenes. More importantly, we discuss how to stop reacting emotionally and start approaching your case like a CEO walking into a boardroom—organized, strategic, accountable, and in control.

If you’re involved with CPS, this episode will help you better understand the system, take ownership of your case plan, document your progress effectively, and advocate for yourself with confidence.

Knowledge is power. Strategy changes outcomes.

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06/28/2026

The Grief Nobody Talks About

People ask us why we keep fighting.

Why we keep researching.
Why we keep reading court records.
Why we keep telling our story.
Why we built INCD.

The answer is simple.

Because some losses don’t end when a judge signs an order.

Some losses don’t happen because someone dies.

Some losses happen while the people you love are still alive.

Our family knows what it feels like to mourn living people.

We know what it feels like to lose our son Bobby through circumstances that left us powerless.

We know what it feels like to fear losing Augustus—and then to spend every ounce of ourselves fighting to bring him home.

We know what it feels like to have someone who has been like a father to me my entire life—my Uncle Orby—suddenly removed from our family’s life. Not just from us, but from our son, who lost an uncle he deeply loved without ever having a voice in the decisions adults made.

Children should never become collateral damage in adult conflict.

Siblings should never lose each other because adults are fighting.

Families should never become disposable simply because life became complicated.

People often think these situations end when the court case is over.

In reality, that’s when another battle begins.

You read transcripts.

You study reports.

You revisit every hearing.

Every allegation.

Every accusation.

Every visit.

Every goodbye.

You search for answers that may never come.

You replay conversations in your head a thousand times, wondering if one different sentence could have changed everything.

The world keeps moving.

Birthdays arrive.

Holidays pass.

Family gatherings happen without you.

People slowly stop asking how you’re doing.

Some don’t know what to say.

Others decide it’s easier not to ask.

Eventually, the silence becomes its own kind of loss.

There is a kind of grief that has no funeral.

No casseroles.

No memorial service.

No permission to mourn.

Psychologists sometimes describe it as ambiguous loss—grieving someone who is still alive but no longer part of your daily life.

To us, it has always felt like something different.

It feels like death by a thousand paper cuts.

Not one devastating wound.

Thousands of tiny ones.

Every accusation.

Every insinuation.

Every rumor.

Every denied phone call.

Every missed birthday.

Every empty chair.

Every family photograph missing someone who should have been there.

One cut doesn’t destroy you.

But thousands of them slowly bleed you dry.

People often say, “Just move on.”

Move on to what?

How do you move on from people you still love?

How do you stop being a father?

How do you stop being a mother?

How do you stop loving your child?

How do you stop missing the people who helped shape your life?

You don’t.

You simply learn to carry the weight.

That weight is one of the reasons Mandy and I built INCD.

Not because we believe every parent is innocent.

Not because every system is wrong.

But because we know what it feels like when families are overwhelmed, isolated, unheard, and drowning.

We know what it feels like to need someone who will simply listen.

To explain the process.

To help families make sense of what they’re facing.

To remind them they are still human.

If our story accomplishes anything, we hope it reminds people that behind every case file is a family.

Behind every court order are children.

Behind every allegation are human beings whose lives continue long after the paperwork is filed.

This message is dedicated to Bobby.

To Augustus.

To Uncle Orby.

And to every family mourning someone who is still alive.

We see you.

We understand that kind of grief.

And we hope one day more people will understand it too.

06/22/2026

Episode 5 assessment strategies and service engagement. We are breaking down dependency cases so parents know how to handle what’s in front of them. And we are digging more into the CEO mindset. Your case plan is not a punishment it’s a high stakes business contract and you need to be a CEO in crisis management mode . # familyfirst

04/28/2026

Parents overcomplicate visits.

Kids don’t.

👉 They don’t need perfect.
They need YOU.

Run. Laugh. Be goofy.

That’s what they remember.

Keep it simple.

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04/27/2026

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03/29/2026

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