06/01/2026
A message from the
City of King, NC Police Chaplains.
When Trust Becomes Your Greatest Wound
“There are many things that can hinder an on-going journey of growth into wellness of being. Few can do as much harm and shake the foundations of what we believe in as betrayal, because it attacks us in a vulnerable and unsuspecting place; that which we hold to be true, through whom we hold closest or love most.
Betrayal can take many shapes, and it can come in varying forms, but at its root, it is principally and fundamentally broken trust. Whether the injury stems from interpersonal, institutional, or societal violations of established agreements and understandings, betrayal strikes at our perceived safety through that which we hold closest to our hearts. Thus, the reason such pain can be engendered when we feel it’s sting.
Much like any other form of struggle, how we respond to betrayal can either help us in our journey or debilitate us. Betrayal can lead to profound mental health issues, including trauma, deep anger, resentment, and a complete loss of trust. It often results in, or causes, the breakdown of a relationship, creating insecurity, confusion, and fear. But it doesn’t need to stay there.
Conversely, if processed with wisdom, it can lead to growth. Wisdom will not remove the pain, but it will be essential in traveling through it using the lessons learned. Lessons such as understanding that trust is a precious gift essential to relational intimacy, and we should not allow bad actors or incidences, to steal from us the ability and desire to trust again. Wisdom enables us to learn to navigate the waters of a broken world, by not seeing betrayal as pervasive and all encompassing.
Not everyone or everything is waiting to hurt us. Wisdom will help us to choose wisely whom we allow in, and where we should tread carefully. Wisdom will also lead us into forgiveness, both of ourselves for “being fooled,” and to the offending party so we are not held captive through the tethering to past events, people who should be kept at arm’s length, or trimmed from our relational tree altogether.”
- Boulder Crest Foundation