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06/17/2026

I got quieter, colder, and more distant.

Not because he did anything wrong… but because his mood made me uncomfortable too.

Sometimes the most important thing we can do is stay steady enough that they don’t feel responsible for keeping us okay too.

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06/17/2026

Turns out, my kids don’t always need me to fix the feeling.

Sometimes they just needed me to stay with them in it.

Still learning this one…❤️

06/16/2026

Him lighting up while explaining something I know absolutely nothing about was way more important than me understanding anything he was telling me.

Sometimes connection looks like sitting there confused as hell… but fully paying attention anyway.

Part 42 🖤 Trying to get this message into more homes and this page to 2,500 followers. What’s been your favorite part so far? Let me know in the comments!

06/15/2026

I thought I was teaching a lesson.

Turns out I was teaching him it might not feel safe to come back to me if he got it wrong.

And honestly?

I get why we do it.
We want them to learn.
We want them to listen.
We want to protect them from mistakes.

But sometimes being the safe place matters more than being the right one.

Part 41 🖤 Trying to get this message into more homes and this page to 2,500 followers. Follow along and send this to another parent who’d get it.

06/15/2026

I think a lot of us grew up becoming really good at pushing through feelings.

👉 Keep going.
👉 Shake it off.
👉 Don’t make a big deal out of it.

So now when our kids feel something big, it can almost feel urgent to make it smaller 😅

I’m realizing I’m still unlearning that too and that being present is different than being responsible for making every hard feeling disappear 💛

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06/14/2026

The hard part is… kids don’t only learn from what we say. They learn from what we rush to cover up.

Trying to hold it together all the time might actually teach them that feelings are something to hide instead of move through.

Part 40 🖤 Help me get to 2,500! Follow along and send this to another parent who’d feel this too.

06/13/2026

When my kids came to me with the big questions, they weren’t always asking for a lecture. Sometimes they were inviting me into their thinking.

So, before I jump in, I’ve started asking, “What do you think about it?”

And honestly? I’ve learned so much more that way.

And if they leave feeling heard instead of taught, that’s a win I’ll take every time.

Just one imperfect mom sharing the little shifts that have changed things in our home. 🫶

06/12/2026

I wasn’t upset with them at all but apparently they notice everything 🫠

Have you ever caught yourself doing this? Let me know in the comments.

06/12/2026

When they ask for a new social media account — don’t just say yes or no.

Use it as a conversation about how they want to be seen online.

“I’m open to talking about it — but first, tell me: what do you want people to know about you on there?”

You’re not blocking them. You’re building a kid who thinks before they post. 🤍

Save this for when the ask comes.

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