HAVEN - Healthy Alternatives to Violent Environments

05/29/2026

At HAVEN, we’re often asked how to notice signs of abuse and when to offer help. If you’re worried about someone you care about, remember they might not be ready to accept support right away. 💛 Be gentle and patient. Let them know you care and are there for them, whenever they’re ready. Your kindness can make a big difference. 🤗

Here are a few signs that someone might need support. Everyone is unique, so you might notice just one or a few of these. 🌱

* Changes in behavior (more or less engaged, distant, withdrawn)
* Not being allowed to go anywhere alone
* Isolation from friends and family
* Appearing fearful or hyper-vigilant (alert and on edge)
* Appearing agitated or quick-tempered
* Changes in attendance/academic performance/motivation within classes
* Changes in appearance
* Physical signs (bruising or cuts to the face or body, difficulties walking or sitting)
* Attempts to hide injuries (sunglasses, heavy makeup, scarves, long sleeves out of the norm of their usual dress, or inappropriate for the weather)
* Changes in sleep patterns or appearing tired
* Increased alcohol or substance use
* Depression, hopelessness, or increased anxiety
* Financial difficulties or more money/material possessions than usual

Remember, these signs can appear for lots of reasons—not just abuse. If you notice several changes and want to talk, we’re here for you. 💬

Please reach out to our 24/7 crisis line at (209) 577-5980 if you have any questions or need support.

You’re not alone, and we believe you. 💖

05/27/2026

What is a safety plan? 🌱 At HAVEN, we talk about safety plans to help each person feel secure. A safety plan is a simple, flexible guide made just for you. Your plan can change as your needs change, because safety looks different for everyone. 💛

A safety plan is a list of steps and information that fits your situation. 📝 It helps you get ready for different moments, like talking to loved ones, handling tough feelings, and finding support. 🤝

* Know a few ways to leave your home safely. 🚪 Practice how you would get out if you needed to.
* Pack a small bag with medicine, important papers, cash, and spare keys. 🎒 Hide it well or give it to someone you trust. 🤗
* Think of a safe place to go if you decide to leave. 🏡
* Set up a simple signal with a friend or neighbor so they know when you need help. 📱 This could be a special text or a small change around your home. 🌸
* Pick a code word to use with family or friends if you need them to call the police. 🗝️
* If you are safe, reach out to your local domestic violence agency to learn how they can support you. ☎️
* Make a safety plan with your children, too. 👨‍👧 Show them where they can hide, remind them not to step in, and teach them how to call 911 and share your address. ❤️

If you or anyone you know needs this type of support, please call our 24/7 crisis line at (209) 577-5980. We are here to help, and we believe you. 🤍

05/25/2026

Holiday Closure!

05/25/2026

Read about how to support HAVEN this month!

🌟 How to Support HAVEN this May: Get Involved & Make a Difference! 📚💜 🎉 Exciting news! HAVEN has teamed up with Friends of the Modesto Library for an amazing Scholastic ONLINE Book Fair! 🗓️ Mark your calendars: May 14-27, 2026! Help us spread the joy of reading! 📖✨ You can ...

05/25/2026

Update on HAVEN's Upcoming Poetry with Purpose. Read here: https://bit.ly/4tOGNC8

05/24/2026

Please read the latest about HAVEN's Advocacy Department here: https://bit.ly/4v4s2wm

05/24/2026

Please meet one of our heroes: Pilates Brunch Club. Here: https://bit.ly/43ptfSY

05/23/2026

🌟✨ Get ready for the most dazzling night ever! HAVEN is bursting with excitement to invite you to What a Drag Season Four! 💃👑 Join us at the Gallo Center for the Arts on July 11, 2026—where the runway sparkles, the energy is electric, and the fun never stops! 🎉🌈

What A Drag has been strutting alongside HAVEN for ages, and every show is packed with jaw-dropping artistry, wild creativity, and pure joy! 🎭✨ You’ll be amazed by the talent and genius on display!

This show is all about shining bright, celebrating everyone, and creating a safe, sparkly space where you can be 100% YOU! 🌈💕 Inclusivity and safety are at the heart of everything HAVEN does.

Here is the link to purchase tickets: https://bit.ly/4ucyMZ3

You won’t want to miss this fabulous night! Grab your friends, bring your best glam, and get ready to cheer—hope to see your shining face in the crowd! 🎤👠🥳

05/22/2026

Please support this collaboration!

05/21/2026

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05/20/2026

May is National Mental Health Awareness Month.