08/21/2026
What does happiness look like?
Is happiness something you find? Something you remember? Something you create? Or maybe something you discover in other people?
That was the question running quietly through our meeting at Sooner Toastmasters this week.
Our Toastmaster for the evening, Sonny Robitaille, chose happiness as the theme—but he didn’t give us a lecture about it. Instead, he built it into the meeting.
He filled a table with books about happiness. He gave members different words associated with happiness and had us hold them up around the room—glad, fortunate, joyful, delighted, carefree, satisfied—a simple reminder that happiness doesn’t look exactly the same to everyone.
And then something interesting happened.
Our three speakers gave us three very different versions of it.
John Robertson gave us happiness remembered. He took us back to his college days and the adventures of playing in a band. It was nostalgic, funny and the kind of story that reminds you how much joy can live in memories we haven’t thought about in years.
Lord Jack Jordan gave us happiness sought. His speech was more personal. He talked openly about his own search for happiness, including places he looked and didn’t find it. But he also talked about places he has—through acts of service and relationships with other people, including friendships he has found in this club.
Then Michael Barnes gave us happiness through connection.
Michael told us about making the “mistake” of making eye contact with a stranger. He said hello. A conversation followed. Eventually, a friendship did too.
His message was simple: we can move through life staring at our phones and pass right by people we never really see. Yet occasionally taking the risk to look up and say hello might introduce us to someone we can help, someone who can help us—or simply someone worth knowing.
Nobody stood up Thursday night and gave us the definition of happiness.
I’m glad they didn’t.
Instead, a room full of people told stories, laughed, listened, learned from one another and gave us several different possibilities.
And maybe that’s a pretty good definition itself.
Sooner Toastmasters is about becoming a better speaker—but some nights, the conversations become about a whole lot more than speaking.
Curious about what Toastmasters could do for you? Come check us out. There’s no pressure to speak and no obligation to join. Just come meet us, watch a meeting and see what happens.
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