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If Life Was. If Life Was... It's an idea that hunted me one day! I started to think in decisions we have taken in Life that brought us to where we are now, but what if...

02/21/2021

Humorous speech about events that happened to me.

02/21/2021

Reading the Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene. Interesting and would love to get views and input about reading this book.

02/21/2021

Friendly talk about Robert Greene book The Laws of Human Nature and other topics

02/01/2021
02/01/2021

Impact 21 Toastmasters a Mentorship Journey!

Have you ever noticed that there are certain teams in sports, music, associations, and the like that are always successful?

Wining is not an accident, but the result of a purposeful commitment to achieving excellence by practicing the disciplines one must master. At Impact 21 Toastmasters Club, we believe that our members deserve the opportunity to become a better version of themselves. The executive team has had many sessions and conversations around the topic of mentorship. Yes, this is a work in progress, and the results and the lessons are real.

Mentoring benefits both the mentor and mentee. Mentees gain self-confidence and achieve their goals at a higher rate because of the encouragement and support provided by their mentor. Mentees gain the opportunity to advance their hidden talents. And mentors gain experience with one-on-one communication, counseling, and coaching.

Impact 21 Toastmasters is a dynamic and diverse club, and for the last few years, it has consistently achieved year after year a Perfect 10 score under the Toastmasters International Distinguished Club Program. The leadership at the club is strong and members are always engaged in attending meetings and presenting speeches toward the completion of their educational goals. Within the club, we have members who have served in District 83 top-ranking positions and beyond. Impact 21 is home to Toastmasters International Region 9 Advisor Cyndi Wilson. In addition to having a strong leadership presence, several club members have participated and won at the district level speech contests and the International Speech Contest. Lastly, one of our members have been a finalist multiple times at the Toastmasters World Championship of Speaking contest.

To attract new members, the club’s meetings are advertised on Meetup and other social media platforms, which generally brings a lot of guests interested in learning about the club. The club has had a steady number of guests and visitors for years and this year is no exception. The real work is ensuring that visitors return, join, and remain engaged with the club. One of the reasons for the investment in time and energy in organizing a mentoring program comes from the fact that some guests do not stay long with the club. Some of the reasons could be attributed to personal conflicts or lack of motivation to achieve their communications goals. Some challenges occur when a new member joins and has problems delivering their speech and starts to feel discouraged. It is at this juncture that a mentor can assist in accelerating their learning curve. Understanding the new Toastmasters Pathways educational program and learning all club meeting roles helps to further clarify members’ goals. The more the mentee learns, the more likely it is that their confidence will increase and the ease of navigating the program contributes to membership retention.

Armed with the understanding that there is always room for improvement, one of the co-authors of this post, Lorraine Campbell saw the need to strengthen the club’s mentoring program. She has utilized the High-Performance Leadership (HPL) project as a tool to re-launch and enhance Impact 21’s Mentorship Program.

A committee was formed, a project plan was created, and the committee met on a bi-weekly basis. The mission is to assist both new and existing members to accomplish their goals of becoming strong communicators and effective leaders both in Toastmasters and in their personal lives. Since Q4 2020, she has been coordinating with her HPL Committee which consists of the club’s Executive Board and Club Mentorship Chair, yours truly. We discussed issues new members face when becoming acclimated to the club. Guidelines were developed to help accelerate a new member’s integration and retention within the club. The process has already proven to be successful. During this period, five new members joined our club and have either delivered their ice breaker or participated in a meeting role. Our goal is to enhance the mentorship process and integrate lessons learned along the way. We believe it is important to provide the tools and resources to ensure both new and existing members reap the full benefits of not only being a Toastmaster but also in achieving their communication and leadership goals. In the end, not only does the member benefit, but the, division, and the district benefit as a whole.

01/19/2021

Recent interview with VicePresident of Education at What Exit? Toastmasters Club Lynda Starr, DTM and Why should anyone interested Visit our Club.

10/03/2020

Life is complicated. You plan for something and life has something different in store for you. You have to be prepared for the unexpected

10/14/2019

The Two Most Important Days in Your Life: The Day You Were Born and the Day You Discover Why. Mark Twain.

Fellow Toastmasters, and friends if you are curious like me, you may be constantly asking yourself, why am I here?
Of course, some of you may say, well it all depends on what you mean by here. You mean here in this Open House with all the nice people who are looking for ways to feel empowered and ready to take on whatever life through in front of them?
Or you mean here, in the State of New Jersey a fertile ground that allows ideas to flourish, a place to raise families and make long-lasting friendships.
Or do you mean here in Planet, Earth the only planet known to men to be able to sustain life and house the human species with thousands of other beings, from the smallest insects to giants’ whales?
Or do you mean here, right now in these unprecedented times, where robotics, self-driving cars, amazon, google, and Uber, are getting the entire planet so connected that we can know in seconds what is happening on the other side of the planet in a matter of seconds?
The truth is if I knew the answer to the “why question”? I would probably be making millions of dollars and would only be rival by inspirational speaker and entrepreneur Tony Robbins, who is known as the Why-Man; capable of rallying crows to walk on fire and set personal and long-lasting goals. Or maybe Deepak Copra, writer and inspirational leader in alternative medicine and meditation.
Since I am not one of the two, I can only ask you to consider, what can you do to better your current situation and advance in finding the answer to your quest of why you are here.
Toastmasters has been of tremendous help to me since before Toastmasters I would spend three to four uninterrupted hours a day watching the bad news, that is offered on television these days.
Coming to Toastmasters helped me find an accountability partner in the form of a pedometer that allows me to lose 40 pounds in two years, since this program helped me to learn how to plan part of my days and use the TV time to walk or step on a trek mill as opposed to seat on a couch watching the news.
I came to Toastmasters because I wanted to be a better speaker, instead, I have learned to be a better leader and take control of small things that have a tremendous impact and return on investment on my part. I have fostered long-lasting friendships and personal relations, that have helped me be a better version of myself and pay more attention to those around me. Even, though I have a lot of ground to grow in terms of investing more time with my wife and family. But little by little I am getting there.
So, what I want to you take from this talk is that while Toastmaster is not going to give you the answer to why you are here. It is going to help you frame better the questions of what you can do to advance and become a better version of you every day. Giving you food for thoughts and helping you set the GPS that will take you from where you are today, to where you would like to be in the future.
The Secret to success is to get started. Don’t delay take action and godspeed!

08/13/2019

Have you ever found yourself considering doing something new, changing jobs, losing weight, starting on a new hobby, dancing salsa or climb mountains?

And then for a reason or another, an excuse shows up and all your desires are postponed or thrown away? Why is that we are so fast to desist in giving ourselves a chance? Why do we believe that others may have better chances than us?

Let me tell you are not alone, I have been there and done that, fear of failure and fear of success, are both paralyzing. Alternatively, instead of trying to do all at once, start where you are today, and take one step in the direction of your dreams. Repeat the same tactic tomorrow knowing that just like your heart beats, you will have up and downs as you go, and that as long as you keep moving there is nothing you can't do, if you start where you are today.

06/22/2019

Such a simple question, what brought me here to join Toastmasters. One will think that I should be able to provide a simple answer, right? Wrong!

Like many of my fellow members, I joined Toastmasters searching for growth and looking for likeminded people that would help me construct the best possible person I could be. So, this is what happened, I have learned that we learn more in moments of enjoyment and that while there are many other organizations, and professional, religious groups out there, a toastmaster club give you a sense of belonging. Having a more diverse and distinct group of people around you open the door to opportunities for friendship and mentoring than being there just for career or professional growth alone. At the end of the day, we are more than our job and careers, belong to this team have changed my thinking and feeling about serving others to grow.

And why I am insisting to stay as long as I could. It's because I have decided that serving my fellow members is a responsibility and an honor, that I am willing to take, as with every act of giving, I get more than I could possibly give to them. The reward of seeing our members become better speakers and more confident members of our human race, raise my spirit and give purpose to my present needs to give back.

06/14/2019

Socrates once said, "All I know is that I know nothing". Arriving at the realization that we are always evolving and that every single path in front of us is a new opportunity, a new way to see things in ways we didn't even suspect we could. Is the marvel of human genius. Never stop learning and never settle, as you will discover one day that every day is precious and you should never miss smiling at a sunny day, a friendly greeting, and a warm display of appreciation because when you crossed the finish line of this human existence, all you carry to the next chapter of what follows is the time when something or someone took your breath away.

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