09/27/2026
The Problem Was Never the Person.
For generations, children with disabilities were placed on posters and presented to the public as people to pity, cure, or “fix.”
And when a cure wasn’t possible, another message often took its place: Try harder. Push harder. Overcome it. Don’t let your disability stop you.
Those who exceeded expectations became inspirational stories—the “supercrip” who proved that determination could supposedly overcome disability. But there was a problem with that story: it still measured success by how closely a disabled person could resemble a nondisabled person.
And for some people, particularly polio survivors described in disability-rights history, years of pushing already-weakened bodies came with consequences.
What had once been praised as determination could contribute to pain, fatigue and declining function later in life. The long-term effects were not adequately understood when many were being encouraged to push harder.
That history should make us ask a different question. Who gets to decide what a successful life with a disability looks like?
Not a poster. Not a charity campaign. Not society. And not even professionals acting without the person’s voice.
A successful life does not have to mean walking instead of using a wheelchair. It does not have to mean appearing less disabled.
And a person should not have to perform extraordinary accomplishments to earn our respect.
Our responsibility is to create communities where people have access, opportunity, informed choices, appropriate support, dignity, belonging and self-determination.
Sometimes the barrier isn’t the person’s body.
Sometimes the barrier is the staircase.
The policy. The inaccessible classroom.
The transportation system. The expectation. Or the belief that someone’s life needs to look like ours to be valuable.
The disability-rights movement challenged us to move beyond pity and charity toward access, rights and self-determination.
Different abilities. Equal value.
And perhaps one of the most important things professionals can learn is this: Before deciding what someone needs to overcome, ask them what kind of life they want to live.
— Oklahoma Child Wellbeing
OKChildWellbeing.org