11/15/2018
A request from a colleague for practices, tips that you may have used while awaiting reunification with your children please email them to :
[email protected]
She does not want stories about alienation!
Hi Amazing Parents,
I am writing a book about what to do while waiting to reunite with alienated children. Many are waiting on the legal /mental health system for help, others have older children and are waiting for some kind of a breakthrough. We know that it’s a hard place to be. I’m looking for:
> Stories about ways people have reached out to their alienated children that made a positive difference
> Practices that have helped alienated parents to become the best version of themselves while they wait
> Ways that alienated parents have found power through forgiveness.
--- or other things, resources, people, events that have helped
> I’m not looking for your story about alienation. The idea is to share some encouragement of things that have helped you along the way.
If you have any tips, quips or stories about what to do while waiting to reunite, please pass them along to me. You will be credited in the book if you choose to identify yourself. Please forward this email to anyone that you think may be able to contribute. I would love to hear from restored kids/adults also. I think their input on what led them back to a loving parent will be an encouragement to my readers.
Here are some examples:
I had been reaching out to my alienated daughter for four years by texting her short, sweet messages. In four years I had no response from her until I sent her a selfie of me making a funny face. It was a silly face that I had made many times as she was growing up. In tears, I read her response, “ you were always goofy.” It opened the door and now, years later, we are fully restored.
Bob J.
I would often wake up in the middle of the night and start thinking about my kids. My head was spinning. I found some really good apps of pastors sermons and some TED talks. I would put my headphones in and listen to them in the middle of the night as I rested my head on my pillow with my eyes closed in the dark. It was just enough to get my mind off of my troubles and help me get back to sleep. I also learned some great information before I fell asleep!
Carrie V.
I remember when I was rejecting my mom. The courts ordered visitation one night a week for us. I felt like I had to tell my dad that it was stupid and that I didn’t want to go. My mom would plan special dinners on these nights and she always had a theme. One night she made Mexican food and we wore sombreros and had sweets in a piñata for dessert. I acted like I didn't like it, but secretly I did. When I reconnected with my mom, I told her how much I was really looking forward to those dinners. At the time, I couldn’t tell anyone that I was really excited to see her.
Jason D.
THANK YOU
Barb Schroeder
Certified Reunification Coach
[email protected]
"Healing relationships one at a time."