05/15/2026
Real stories of foster care: "Having a child move in, not knowing how long they will stay. Loving, teaching & guiding them. Getting so attached & then possibly watching them leave, sometimes with only a moments notice; makes you ask why anyone would willingly open themselves up like that to the opportunity of a broken heart. May even sound a little scary to think about & it is. But honestly, it scares me more to know what insecure attachments can produce in children that, by no fault of their own, were removed from their closest connections.
A child that doesn’t have secure attachment during their developmental years can experience heartbreaking & possibly lifelong affects. Beyond the pain, the brokenness, the confusion; they can struggle with low self esteem, processing, impulse control, poor coping & social skills. They can experience aggression & high stress levels. They may be clingy, withdrawn or harbor feeling of rejection—& these are just SOME of the things we may see.
Now I don’t ever want to take away from the fact that the grief foster parents go through is REAL in every way. It really is painful & really confusing & really exhausting. I have been there & the hurt runs so deep that I wasn’t sure if the holes in my heart would ever be healed.
But I can say, without a doubt that I would rather keep investing my hole-filled heart & experience any of the residual pain, than a child not having someone show them love with their whole heart."
Credit: RealLifeFosterMom for sharing 💓