09/05/2026
🚨 NEW EPISODE OF IN THE DEEP IS LIVE.
**What if what you've been calling “obedience” is being weaponized as control and abuse?**
What if you aren't rebellious?
What if you aren't too emotional?
What if you aren't a bad Christian wife?
What if the reason you feel confused, anxious, incapable of making decisions and like you don't even know who you are anymore… is because you've slowly been conditioned to believe that YOU are the problem?
Now on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/xxG0DpGvhQE?si=nlA8G2OHFXyFhfQd
**Coercive Control. Spiritual Abuse. Get CLARITY NOW.**
Please SHARE this one. There may be a woman on your friends list who desperately needs language for what she is living through—and she may not know how to ask for help yet.
This conversation is for the woman who loves God and genuinely wants to honor Him but somewhere along the way, submission became silence, obedience became fear, and keeping the peace required her to keep becoming smaller.
Christi Lile and I are both survivors of domestic abuse. In this episode of **In The Deep**, we sit down and talk openly about Mica Miller's story and the patterns that were painfully familiar to both of us.
We go DEEP into:
• coercive control and why it can be so difficult to recognize
• spiritual and religious abuse
• narcissistic abuse and trauma bonds
• Scripture being weaponized against women
• the slow loss of identity inside an abusive relationship
• sexual coercion within marriage
• gaslighting, character assassination and self-doubt
• silent treatment, withholding, interrogation and punishment
• why you can be controlled without someone ever saying “you're not allowed”
• how a woman can spend years praying for God to change HER while never recognizing what is actually happening to her
• and how to begin finding your identity in Christ again
One of the most dangerous things about coercive control is that eventually **the abuser doesn't have to tell you what you can and cannot do.**
You already know what will happen if you don't comply.
So you adjust.
You appease.
You stop bringing things up.
You stop trusting yourself.
You try harder.
You pray harder.
You become smaller.
And eventually you may not even recognize the woman you used to be.
That is NOT the freedom Christ died to give you.
This episode isn't about attacking marriage, biblical submission or the church. It's about exposing what happens when beautiful biblical truths are twisted and weaponized to obtain power and control over another human being.
Our prayer is that this conversation gives someone EYES TO SEE.
Clarity begins with finally having words for what you've been experiencing.
And if you're watching this thinking, *“Oh my gosh… this sounds like my life,”* please know this:
**Abuse is a choice. It is not your burden to carry. Healing is possible. Freedom is possible. And your story is not over.**
🎙️ **OBEDIENCE OR ABUSE? Spiritual Narcissism & Loss of Identity**
Eyes To See Ministry
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