08/21/2026
"And the worst words I've ever heard after 'Your husband's dead' [were] 'You're no longer a wife, you're a widow.'" (Video interview with Patricia Barbee, 19:57).
A native of Tennessee, John Wesley Barbee joined the Marines to escape the wrath of local white supremacists angered by his civil rights activism. Stationed aboard the USS Wasp, the lead recovery ship for the Gemini moon landings, Barbee took part in multiple "splashdowns," helping to rescue astronauts from the ocean after they arrived back on Earth. After a stint aboard the USS Chilton, he departed for Vietnam, where he was killed in action in August 1968--a mere two years after marrying his wife, Patricia. In her oral history interview, Patricia Barbee discusses her husband's life and military career, their love story, and how she endured after his death. Listen to Patricia tell John's story here: https://www.loc.gov/collections/veterans-history-project-collection/serving-our-voices/impact-of-service/in-memoriam-honoring-the-fallen/item/afc2001001.118385/