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Marriage and relationship counseling with Pastor Ruva, Harare (2025)

05/10/2023

Many times partners find it hard to listen to each other due to many reasons. Some of the reasons being that,the man says i am the man so automatically i have to be listened to,the woman also uses being a woman as a reason to be listened to. You just don't get listened to because you have spoken. Create a platform,environment as well as a reason to be heard. In the book of Acts,the very first chapter it is written"... of all that Jesus began both to do and teach", learn something here Jesus did not just do but also went on to teach. What have you done as a person that can cause someone to listen to you, no one has mentioned anything about being believed or being heard ....just being listened to. It starts with us as individuals,what has become of us,what is it that we do. When your partner looks at you what do they see? Someone who breaks promises? Someone who says things for the sake of it?Someone who lies? Before you can ask your partner to listen to you ask yourself if you have become a person worth listening to? You can trust the Word of God because God says what He means and means what He says...can the same be said of you? For the sake of the future and your partner even yourself be disciplined enough to work on yourself before giving yourself to others. Be worthy.

12/07/2023

A relationship can start because of appearance and whole lot of other things that dont matter...but a marriage is as a result of a Decision that will require more other decisions. You have to choose your partner not once,not twice or thrice but every time. Feelings should never be the foundation of a marriage because with time and with changes they change....change of weather, change of environment etc can cause your feelings to change therefore they cannot be trusted enough to build marriage on them. Marriage is as a result of a decision that is made by two people. When the going gets tough or unbearable you don't change your decision but rather you make a decision to keep the decision that you made,not just of loving but of being with the person you chose... It is not everyone that you asked out or that asked you out that you marry ...you get to choose one and not just that..you have to keep on choosing that one person. Love is that power that strengthens you to stick with your decision....

27/10/2022

I have heard about relationships that came to an end because of third parties and it should not be so. It is your responsibility to have yo partner's back,to be their eyes and ears even their lawyer if need be. Anyone who tries to talk bad about your partner make it straight with them there and there it doesn't matter who it is. It can be her mother or his father but you are her husband or you are his wife.Dont allow other people to determine the terms of yo relationship or marriage,this is yo own fish you choose how you want to have it. At some point God was in a special relationship with Moses,Aaron and Miriam the siblings of Moses started to speak against Moses and you know wat, Moses did not hear a thing it was God who heard them. God did not leave the issue to be addressed by Moses when he gets to hear about it probably when half the people now knows, No.God defended his partner. You can make people respect or disrespect your partner based on how relate with them. These were the siblings of Moses so the relatives of your partner can be against your partner or even try to pull him down,don't say it's not my fight it is a family thing,No. You're more than family You're their spouse don't allow nobody to treat them however.

12/10/2022

No one is immune to pain but the pain one goes through should never define them or even detect things for them. Forgiving your partner does not mean you are desperate,neither does it mean you were not hurt. Being able to forgive them means what you share is stronger than their mistakes.

10/10/2022

You don't neglect your first role because you have qualified for another. You don't stop being a woman because you have become someone's wife. However others have a tendency of forgetting that they are wives/husbands when they become mothers/fathers. A family is a combination of people with different roles to play yet one goal to achieve. Don't love your partner and neglect the children or the other way round. Being a mother doesn't excuse you from your role of being a wife or a woman in the society same with men.

10/10/2022

You do not have time not to show love to your partner. Yes be mad it's good but don't stay mad. Every second counts because u can't buy another. The fact that you were privileged to be given this minute doesn't mean the same will happen in the next. Tomorrow was not promised to anyone so give today all you have. Imagine reserving some love for your partner and then he doesn't come back because he is dead. Call him/her,text,video call,tell them how much you love them and how much you've missed them from the last time you saw them even if it was in the morning or five minutes ago. This is the time you have use it.
Love doesn't have to be a secret,it should be shown,shared and expressed.

23/09/2022

When you pray together as a couple there is some sort of attachment that happens,there is a bond that is created. You will be unstoppable as partners but you will have to have each other's back because there will be more attacks. Not everyone is happy for you,not everyone wants you to be in a relationship or marriage. Marriage requires prayer but not just prayer.

04/09/2022

Everyone wants the fine things this life can offer....be careful to take what is yours.

18/05/2022

Many think that a person who loves you will never hurt you but that is not so true. However in most cases they will not hurt you intentionally. If they happen to do so that doesn't mean it is the end of the road for you both. Ups and downs are there and are normal but don't make them detect the fate of your relationship. Where there is love there is power to forgive.

15/02/2022

It's allowed to get mad but not to stay mad....there is a life to be lived and to be enjoyed. Don't miss out!!!! Forgive and move forward

03/02/2022

There are certain things that do not change even if we want them to. There is a role of a husband and there is a role of a wife. So many problems arises if the two do not know and understand their roles. You need not to play both roles no no,I hear many saying I'm the mother and the father and I wonder 🤔 stick to your positions and complaints will be few. Know your role and act accordingly.

Stay blessed

20/01/2022

Marriage is a place where each and every day you need to practice forgiveness,if you don't tomorrow you just might wake up next to a different person. People have different flaws. You might leave this one because they lie a lot then you go to the next and you find out that he is cheat you leave him again. Will you continue like that? You also have flaws that needs some touch ups.. choose one person work on your flaws together not hop from one relationship to another. Someone very close to me once told me that "you don't have to be perfect for you to be loved" The fact that your imperfections were overlooked does not mean you should remain like that. Always aim higher,try to be better for you and your partner. Even the Bible says Be perfect as your Father in Heaven is perfect. He acknowledged the fact that now you are not but don't remain like that..do better

02/01/2022

There is a language of marriage if you do not learn it there will always be misunderstandings. The way you communicate with your partner is different from how you communicate with anybody else. Blaming game is not even part of it. How you communicate matters....you need to agree in order to achieve. A marriage is built by both of you. Know the approach your partner prefers. Use the language they understand. Don't assume.

17/12/2021

Love is a beautiful thing. A marriage or relationship is something you can easily walk away from if you forget why you were in it to begin with.
You don't need to hop from one relationship to another.....you can develop the one you have ....the results will shock you.

On how to go about your relationship, how to keep or restore it.....we are here. You can be helped,it is never too late

17/12/2021

You can experience the beauty of marriage if you give it a chance.
That marriage or relationship that seems to be dying can be revived, it can bloom again if given a chance to.

You and your partner have roles to play and are responsible for the death or life of your marriage.

15/12/2021

Entering into marriage is more or less like entering into ministry, you don't open a church because you preach well and in the same way you don't get married because you can cook very well or marry because you feel like you are at a position where you can provide for somebody. If you open a church because someone has given you compliments or have shown some belief in you be careful you will soon have a different story to tell. You should not marry because other people think you are ready.

You need to have a conviction that you can't be moved from. You need to have a strong relationship with God for ministry to work for you just like you need to have a strong relationship with your partner for your marriage to work. Be sure of what you are doing. This is not something that you do for other people but for you who is in it.

Stay blessed

10/12/2021

Marriage is not a short time assignment...if you are not ready to spend the time that you have on planet earth with your partner then don't marry them. You don't marry today and when the going gets tough tomorrow you divorce no no no.

Marrying someone is something that you decide on. It is a decision that you need to constantly remind yourself and also keep supporting.quitting is not an option when it comes to marriage. The Israelites in many ways offended God but He didn't forsake them because He made a promise that they will be His people. He forgave them all the time including the times they were not sorry.

If you are not willing to forgive and to let go of the past then you are not ready for marriage. You need a forgiving heart and a lot of patience to be successful in marriage.
Forgive forgive and forgive.

Stay blessed

07/12/2021

A person who wants an orange when given an apple they might be happy but not satisfied. Many times we give people what we want and expect them to be okay with it. A person is satisfied when you give them what they want not what you think they want or what you want them to have.

There is a way that everyone needs to be loved. You prove your love for different people in different ways because they have different love tanks with different capacities. Don't compare, don't say that "I did this for this one and they were okay why can't you be okay with it?" People are different.

For those who are married again or those in new relationships the moment u start comparing your partner with your ex you have lost it. Don't use your experience from the last in this one,no no no. Give yourself an opportunity to study and know yo partner. Deal with them as them and not someone else.

Jesus said if you love me Keep my commandments (John 14vs15) If you say you love God and you don't keep His commandments to Him it is not counted as love because He was honest with you in telling you what He wants as proof for your love for Him. Now know what your partner considers to be love. Take time to know your partner.

Give your partner love not what you consider to be love and they do the same. Fill each other's love tanks. A person with an empty love tank is a dangerous one be careful of losing them soon.

Stay blessed

06/12/2021

Marriage is not all rosey just like life in general is not a walk in the park. Being in marriage is more or less like being a Christian,Jesus said come to me not that there is no yoke or burden,no. (Matthew 11vs28-30) There is a yoke and there is a burden but the difference between this one and the one you were carrying is that this one.... the yoke is easy and the burden is light. What making it easy and light is the fact that you are not carrying it on your own,He is carrying it with you.

Facing a financial situation alone can be stressful but if your partner is in it with you even though the situation is not over yet there is just this peace that you have. Troubles, obstacles, temptations and more will come but they don't have to over power you remember two is better than one. If two is better than one that means you have better chances of winning.

Endure inorder to enjoy, better days will come. Don't give up on your marriage because the going seems to be tough. When the spark seems to be slipping away find ways to bring it back. When the marriage seems to be falling apart look for means to hold it together. When things are not going well in marriage it is not time to change partners but time to fight and fix things.

Tell you what,even if you change partners like you are changing pants you will come to that point where you need to do something to keep what you have. Hoping from one relationship to another,from one marriage to another is not a solution to anything. Learn to fix things... work it out!!!!

Stay blessed

04/12/2021

If you play the role of a superhero in marriage chances are you might never enjoy it. Marriage is not about being there for each other but for being there with each other. God as great as He is never promised to be there for us but to be there with us. Through fires and waters God promised to be with us(Isaiah 43 vs 2).
Being there for your partner may drain you and it is not a good thing for the marriage.Be there with them. Don't be an "oooh I can't imagine what you must be going through" kind of person.

The battles you face in marriage are not meant for you to fight alone but as a couple. There is no place for "I"or "you" but for "us" and "we". If it is happiness share it together if it's sorrow share it as well.

Stay blessed

29/11/2021

A Christian is confident that he is God's because of the Holy Spirit who is a witness to it(Galatians 4 vs 6).
No matter what you tell each other the relationship has to be sealed. It is union of two but not celebrated only by the two and not witnessed by the two only. Angels are Happy in Heaven when someone confesses their love for God and God seals the union.

29/11/2021

What is marriage? That is a question many have no answer to or have wrong answers to. Marriage is not just a union of love but a sealed union of love.

Two people might love each other but they don't know or realize it at the same time. One person realize it sooner than the other. In most of the cases it is the guy who who knows it first and make the first move.

A guy finally approaches a girl tells her how he feels but no union will be formed until the girl responds. It is her choice to say yes or to say no. Let us say the girl agrees, it doesn't end there no that is just the beginning. Just because the girl has said yes does not mean that the guy will say yes you have now become my wife.

The two have agreed and have created VA union but it has not been sealed. The guy together with his family goes to meet the family of the girl and agree as well as seal their relationship with whatever it is that they seal it with. Others go on to have a wedding which is marriage ceremony,others pay lobola it depends with the culture of the two families.

Love doesn't start and end with just loving. There is more to it.
For God so loved the world that he gave his begotten son...(John 3 vs 16) God loved the world but it didn't end with him just loving it,he said it loudly,you say actions speak louder than words. He acted on his love..what did he do? He gave his son to the world as a proof and expression of his love to it. What happens wen the guy tells the girl how he feels? She responds. So the world after having been shown that it is loved by God. That is that part you confess the Lordship of Jesus,what are you doing? You are responding to his love proposal and yes a union has been formed. The union has been created but it is not sealed. The Lord then gives you the Holy Spirit as a seal of the union.

Physically others seal their marriages with rings or napitual chains. God seals with the Holy Spirit. You are confident of your partner's love by the seal of your relationship.

29/11/2021

There is no room for a man or woman in marriage. Marriage is meant for a husband and and a wife. You do not become a husband or wife when you get married but before that. The Bible tells us something beautiful,it say He who finds a wife finds a good thing( Proverbs 18 vs 22). You don't meet a woman and then you transform her into a wife,my friend do you want a marriage or you want a project to work on?.

There is nothing that makes sense that you will do with a woman. A woman can cause you to lose everything that you worked hard for even to lose that which you didn't work for but inherited.

Adam the first man,a woman was brought to him so that he could name her,a name gives a character. You see when people say you are a dog it doesn't mean that you are a dog but you are behaving like one. To continue calling you a person while behaving like a dog seems to be injustice to humanity. Back to Adam,Adam named a woman a woman.

There is no glory in being a man or a woman. A woman simply means taken out of a man. To Adam the woman was . nothing but just a piece that was taken from him. It was God who referred to the woman as Adam's wife first and after that Adam named the woman Eve

Adam had realized that with a woman he will not go anywhere but with the mother of all living I can achieve something and yes they had children.

When searching for a partner know what to look for. Don't go for a man or a woman but a husband or a wife.

Stay blessed

29/11/2021

There is no room for a man or woman in marriage. Marriage is meant for a husband and and a wife. You do not become a husband or wife when you get married but before that. The Bible tells us something beautiful,it say He who finds a wife finds a good thing( Proverbs 18 vs 22). You don't meet a woman and then you transform her into a wife,my friend do you want a marriage or you want a project to work on?.

There is nothing that makes sense that you will do with a woman. A woman can cause you to lose everything that you worked hard for even to lose that which you didn't work for but inherited.

Adam the first man,a woman was brought to him so that he could name her,a name gives a character. You see when people say you are a dog it doesn't mean that you are a dog but you are behaving like one. To continue calling you a person while behaving like a dog seems to be injustice to humanity. Back to Adam,Adam named a woman a woman.

There is no glory in being a man or a woman. A woman simply means taken out of a man. To Adam the woman was . nothing but just a piece that was taken from him. It was God who referred to the woman as Adam's wife first and after that Adam named the woman Eve

Adam had realized that with a woman he will not go anywhere but with the mother of all living I can achieve something and yes they had children.

When searching for a partner know what to look for. Don't go for a man or a woman but husband and a