08/21/2026
Some common questions about open adoption contact after an adoption placement, and our best advice we give adoptive families.
💚 Keep the child at the center. — Make decisions based on what supports their well-being, safety, identity, and relationships.
💚 Choose connection over obligation. — When possible, let updates, photos, and communication be an expression of love and a way of honoring your child’s story.
💚 Honor the commitments you make. — Treat the PACA as an important promise to your child and their birth family. Following through on your commitments builds trust and strengthens relationships, while not following through can create hurt, disappointment, and distrust over time.
💚 Communicate clearly. — Establish clear expectations around frequency of updates, photos, letters, phone calls, video chats, visits, etc.
💚 Be open to changes over time. — As the relationship grows, the updates may naturally become more organic.
💚Sometimes you may not get a response. — Birth parents might need space to grieve, or go through seasons where they might not want as frequent of updates. Be patient, understanding, and save those updates and photos for when they are ready.
💚Hire the right professionals. — Make sure you are working with an attorney who specializes in adoption law with much experience with Post Adoption Contact Agreements.
Want a better understanding of post adoption contact agreement laws in Utah or other states? Contact an adoption attorney! Need help finding one? Reach out to your UAS case worker.